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One big happy family???? Is there such a thing???

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Submitted by Terri54 on Sat, 01/07/2017 - 6:33pm

I've written for advice from time to time over the last few years. Things get better for awhile but when things get worse, I always come here for advice because no one truly understands my life better than the people on this site. DH & I are married almost 12 years. My two children are the oldest and do not live with us. His oldest daughter has always lived far away from us but is currently living with us. She is 22 years old. But then it comes to the two youngest who I have just about helped raise but of course, get no credit for that. My SS is now 20 years old.

Wedding Sham

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Submitted by Terri54 on Sun, 07/26/2015 - 10:25am

So, I’ve been on this site from time to time especially when things are not going well to look for advice on whether or not I’m crazy. I’ve been a stepmother for a little over 10 years now. When I first came into the picture, SS was 7 and SD was 4. Their mother died the prior year from cancer. DH and I had known each other for years as we had worked together for 10 years but we were in different states.

Happy Anniversary - NOT

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Submitted by Terri54 on Tue, 03/31/2015 - 7:56pm

Today is supposed to be my and DH's tenth wedding anniversary. It's been a day from hell. It doesn't help that I had the stomach virus from hell two day ago and I am still feeling the effects from that.

I remember joking with DH ten years ago that he wanted to hurry up and seal the deal before I changed my mind. Little did I know that would not be a joke! I've learned that once you say I do, the evil stepmother is born!!!

Tired of the lies, stealing, etc.

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Submitted by Terri54 on Sat, 10/25/2014 - 12:58am

Over the last couple of weeks, I've pretty much told my DH that the only thing keeping me here was the fact that I knew SS(now 18) won't be here much longer. Heck, I'm surprised he's still here. But he is a senior in high school and DH really wants him to graduate. I'm at the point, I don't care if he does or doesn't.

Do any DH's know how to apologize?

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Submitted by Terri54 on Tue, 06/24/2014 - 8:21pm

I've posted on here before about the lack of support I get from my DH. Well, recently, SS17 took my ipad in the middle of the night and we put cameras up about a month ago so I got the phone thing on camera. You see, I ruined whatever plans he had with my ipad because I got up to get some water in the kitchen. The cameras have him sneaking around the house trying to avoid me and then putting the ipad back to where he took it, etc. When I let DH know all about this, I tell him I want a lock on my office door.

Tired of SS lies, manipulation & stealing

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Submitted by Terri54 on Mon, 06/23/2014 - 8:20pm

So, I have been the horrible wicked stepmother to my SS for 10 years now. He is now 17 years old. At 7 years old, I tried to "nicely" tell DH things but he always made excuses for him and never did much about it. One of the things that really bothered me was when I realized that he was taking "spare change" off the kitchen counter. After awhile, it was dollar bills. Before long, it was going in my purse and taking money, etc. But my DH has NEVER considered this stealing. I asked him to punish him for it numerous times and he wouldn't do it.

I'm starting to hate Mother's Day

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Submitted by Terri54 on Sat, 05/10/2014 - 11:25pm

It seems like the last few years, right before Mother's Day, the tension in my house is so unbelievably tense that I tell my DH not to get me a damn thing for Mother's Day. I have two grown children who do not live with us. I am the mean horrible step mother to his SS17 & SD14. I've tried to get them to comply to rules and all I've gotten from DH is how I treat his kids like crap. Not that it matters that I've been treated like crap since I got here.

I feel like DH betrayed me

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Submitted by Terri54 on Sun, 08/18/2013 - 11:40pm

SS and I have never gotten along. Mainly because he never had any use for me once he knew he could not manipulate me. He's told lies about me to anyone who will listen etc.

Several years ago, SS was mad at me when I was telling him NOT to do something for the millionth time when he got so mad at me, he drew back a fist on me. He didn't hit me but the look in his eyes was scary. Almost like he if thought for a second he could get away with it, he would. His dad was in the next room so needless to say, I called for him to come in there.

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