So, I have been the horrible wicked stepmother to my SS for 10 years now. He is now 17 years old. At 7 years old, I tried to "nicely" tell DH things but he always made excuses for him and never did much about it. One of the things that really bothered me was when I realized that he was taking "spare change" off the kitchen counter. After awhile, it was dollar bills. Before long, it was going in my purse and taking money, etc. But my DH has NEVER considered this stealing. I asked him to punish him for it numerous times and he wouldn't do it. But I'm the mean one so I would say something to him when DH wasn't around. Looking back, I'm sure I was told on but didn't know it at the time.

It got so bad that I told DH I wanted a lock on my bedroom door because I was tired of him going through my shit all the time when I'm working or sleeping, etc. He was pissed but he did it finally. Guess what, SS broke into the bedroom and I still had shit missing.

Present day, DH has realized that we have some issues with SS but still doesn't see how he has had any part in it at all. I even had him read an article about Guilt Parenting which is him to the max but he doesn't see it. After all, SS has told him for years how horrible I am towards him when he's not around and he believes him. In fact, SS has just about turned the whole family against me.

DH put up some cameras in our house in case "something came up." When I started looking at them every night to see what happened when we were at work, I was told that was not what the cameras were there for. Anyway, last night after I laid down, I remember I left my Ipad in the living room. I went to get it and it was not there. Even though I was pretty sure that is where I left it, I went back in my bedroom and it wasn't there and then I thought I might have put it in my office. So, I went there. At this point, I didn't think to check the cameras because I wasn't sure I had to. But when I came out of my office and was heading back to bed, guess what was right where I knew I left it, yep, my ipad. So I spent the next hour reviewing video of SS taking my ipad, sneaking around the hallway, attempting to go in my office but when he heard me, he went the other way, etc.

I don't guess my DH knows how to be supportive because he really never has been. For the last year, I started having high blood pressure and it goes up when I'm in this house. I'm on one medicine that I take every day and another one that I take as needed when I'm stressed. So, I told DH I wanted a lock for my office in front of SS who admitted that he took my ipad but he threw in a few lies because his story didn't make sense. But afterwards DH said that he didn't agree with the lock and that he didn't feel the need to lock up everything but he'd get a lock if that was what I wanted.

I feel like if he wanted to be supportive and help my blood pressure, he would have said something along the lines that you are absolutely right and I will be sure to get one tomorrow. But instead, he has to tell me that he thinks I'm wrong yet again and I'm over reacting. My answer to all of that is this is a bunch of BULLSHIT!!!! I guess it's asking too much for a supportive DH?