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DH parents out of guilty

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Submitted by Terri54 on Wed, 07/31/2013 - 9:16pm

How many other SM have issues with DH parenting out of guilt? My DH has parented of out guilt for years. His former wife passed away when SS was 6 and SD was 3. SS learned early in life how to manipulate people into getting what he wants including his father. He got away with so much for so long so when I came into the picture, as soon as he realized he could not manipulate me, he literally had no use for me. He's pretty much made my life hell ever since. He's caused so much tension in our house that all relationships at this point are strained including my marriage. Any advice?

Do any DH's support the SM's?

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Submitted by Terri54 on Mon, 07/29/2013 - 6:45pm

I have been married for eight years now and over the last few weeks, I've realized that my fight isn't with my SD & SS, it's with DH. I've learned that when I'm around, he does things one way and when I'm not around, he does things another way but yet it's my fault for all the tension in our house?????? Does anyone else see a faulty logic here?

Is taking something without asking stealing?

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Submitted by Terri54 on Sun, 07/28/2013 - 2:51pm

My skids constantly take things from around the house that I left in the kitchen or living room so that when I need it or go to get it, it's gone. I have constantly said "if it's not yours, don't touch it" from the time they were 3 & 5 years old. Now, they are 14 (sd) & 16 (ss). Their BM died when they were young. I came in and they learned to manipulate people at a young age so when I didn't let them manipulate me and I didn't give in to their every whim, I instantly became a horrible person.

My stepson is making my life hell

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Submitted by Terri54 on Mon, 02/25/2013 - 8:33pm

I have been married for almost ten years. My stepson's BM died when he was younger. He learned from a very young age how to use this to his advantage and how to manipulate people by getting them to feel sorry for him and giving him whatever he wanted. This includes his father. So when I came into the picture, there was a child who had rarely heard the word "no" from anyone. As soon as he could not manipulate me or get whatever he wanted from me, he had NO use for me. But he was told by other members of the family how lucky he was to have me in his life.

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