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Dentist and braces

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If the CO states 50/50 custody can the CP just make the decision of getting braces for a kid without discussing it with the NCP first? Also is the NCP allowed to get a second opinion before the CP takes the kid to get braces? The CO states that each party has to confer with the other party before making decisions but DH will have to file contempt charges before anything can be done about it. So I guess BM can pretty much do whatever she wants and DH will just have to pay no matter what. Are braces considered cosmetic?

I don't want to hear about this crap anymore.

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DH went to pick up the skids last night for his usual Thursday night. Skids are out of school tomorrow for a student/staff holiday and per the CO it states that if a school holiday falls on a Friday or a Monday and it is DH's weekend then he is responsible for them for those days. However BM took it upon her to make dentist and doctor's appointment for both skids for today. This is the kind of crap I am talking about she doesn't read or follow the CO and she wasn't even going to tell DH about dentist and doctor's appointments.

Current Events....

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This weekend DH has the skids oh joy!! I am still going to stick to my plan of not cooking for SS any longer. I have told my DH several times that I will no longer be cooking for SS anymore since the last incident. I hope my stress level will go down because of this but who knows.

Question about extras?

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DH asks me yesterday can BM take him back to court to try to make him pay for car insurance for SS? SS is 13. I told him I don't think so as long as it isn't written in the CO. It states in the CO that he has to pay CS and provide them with medical insurance? I think the only thing that BM can do is try to get more CS. Am I correct?

Spoiled brat!!

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It was DH's weekend again to have the skids. He went and got a trailed on Saturday so I watched the skids for him for a few hours. Then yesterday for about half a day I left to have some "me" time. When I got home I made some hamburgers. The trash was full and I saw all this food in the trash. OSS had cooked food but wasted most of it and I saw one of the hamburgers I cooked in the trash. I told DH that this is not acceptable. SS has been told time and again if he doesn't want food then leave it on the counter.

After the little fiasco yesterday....

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So after the little fiasco I had yesterday. I don't feel any better. DH picked up the skids last night and low and behold he was acting like nothing was wrong. I didn't say a word. SS walks into the house and says hello then asks me what is wrong with me? I asked DH did you tell your kids anything he said no. I guess the kid could just tell that I had anxiety. Every time they walk through that door I have anxiety since DH doesn't know how to parent them. I just told SS nothing was wrong and went on about my business.

This brings me to another conclusion...

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This brings me to another conclusion if my DH can give up his weekend because BM asked then why can't he do the same for me? BM had texted a few weeks back and asked DH if he could give up his weekend so that the skids could spend time with GU grandma. DH was fine with it but, cannot says that he doesn't want to give up time with his kids when I asked him. I told him maybe he should just be with her again after all the skids would be happy. I mean he supposedly did stay with BM for 12 years only because he wanted to keep his kids happy.

Beyond Upset....

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So DH has been focusing on working on his boat and taking the skids with him. Last night he tells me that he has to go pick up a trailer about 2 1/2 hours away on Saturday.

I said well how are you doing that when it's the first weekend of the month and you have your kids. He said well I was hoping that they could stay with you. I told him that they are his kids and his visitation time.

DH all of the sudden trying to teach the skids responsibilty RIGHT!!!

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All of the sudden DH wants to put the skids to work to "help" him on projects on the weekends. Which is totally fine with me because then they aren't bothering me.

But my mind is thinking that you don't make them actually work or do something until it's something you need "help" with however you don't want to discipline them on simple things at home?

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