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Submitted by StepUltimate on Wed, 07/21/2021 - 1:34am

Those of you who have read my blogs & forum posts know my DH is a bit of a piece of work. Without detailing (=exhausted & it's after 11:00pm), after an escalation and DH seeking counsel of some true-blue Friends in the best sense of the word, he is going to find a place to move to & "take a break" because it's best for me. 

These friends, some of the few people on the planet DH respects (I do too, dear friends), told DH he needs to move out and give me a break.

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Tone Deaf, Continued

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Sat, 04/10/2021 - 11:20am

Yesterday, 24 hours after our most recent marriage counseling (MC) session where he teared up telling the MC how much he loves me, how he would give anything to win my heart back, and how he would do anything for me - DH rudely sniped at me... in a store where he was looking for parts for his latest obsession (=not as expensive as the midlife crisis extravaganza, but outdoors/ backpacking/ survival hobby/SHTF prep with hi-end REI-type purchases).

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Dreamt Last Night...

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Thu, 04/08/2021 - 1:55am

.. okay technically it was this morning. I had a dream me & DH were at some gathering of friends at a public venue, and DH got really mad at me & was raging at me. A police officer heard, came over, and DH was even angrier as he got taken away (arrested?), blaming me.

After he was gone, I felt ashamed & guilty. But the other people who were there & had witnessed the whole scene all told me it wasn't my fault... and I felt so relieved. 

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Tone Deaf DH

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Sun, 04/04/2021 - 10:15am

I couldn't believe I was hearing it. After hearing about some drama at my old job, DH told me I need to change how I am & become willing to end relationships with people who treat me/others poorly (my paraphrase). Looking at him incredulously while he was telling me that. How I'm too sweet & empathic, need to toughen up. Jaw-dropping (for me) based on our past 3÷ years... If I applied this standard to DH, I'd be long gone. Not quite sure why I'm not...

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Divorce Eminent...

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Sun, 12/27/2020 - 11:16am

... just need my StepTalk peeps to come march me past the denial (my inner 5 year old still coming up with butterflies & rainbows hopium wishes that this was all a bad nightmare...) and into concrete action toward Freedom from Toxic B.S.

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Just Because I Think It...

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Sat, 11/23/2019 - 3:38pm

... doesn't mean I need to say it. Me emotions are raw & the holidays are HERE, so I'm going into "Let-the-Goodtimes-Roll"-mode and try to cruise thru each moment focused on what I'm grateful for & doing what I need to do. Taking the Next Right Action. Staying in TODAY & not Future-Tripping.

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Six Months of Freedom

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Sun, 03/17/2019 - 6:18pm

... from SS19 living here, disrespecting our home, lying to me and DH in our home, coming home high & with his still-illegal-at-his-age weed stash, not cleaning up after himself or in any way contributing to the household upkeep (or even his own laundry and personal hygiene!), manipulating for money and rides, etc. 

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Next time with a load of clothes...

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Wed, 12/26/2018 - 2:36pm

... is what SS18 said as he left our house with gifts yesterday. That was his passive-agressive pissing match challenge to me, step mom. His dad kicked SS18 out of our home in late August (read my past blogs for the details) and last week I told DH I am not willing to let SS18 move back in. 

Sorry SS, NOT HAPPENING. That is all.

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