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Submitted by StepUltimate on Tue, 02/22/2022 - 12:22am

Update to my latest blog:

https://www.steptalk.org/blog/stepultimate/freedom-update-attorney-block...

Found out tonght from a neighbor that STBXH has been seen driving by my house a few times recently. Reportedly driving slow, but not stopping. Damn. 

So now I have to get the locks re-keyed & a couple of security cameras. Not in a good position to get a fierce guard dog right now.

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FREEDOM Update: Attorney Blocked STBXH

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Sat, 02/19/2022 - 9:15am

An update to my blog from a week ago (linked below):

https://www.steptalk.org/blog/stepultimate/freedom-272617

On Valentine's day (Monday this week), my attorney emailed STBXH stating all communication should be via my attorney. STBXH tried saying that was unnecessary but my attorney politely but firmly shut that down. 

SO. AWESOME.

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FREEDOM!! !!!!

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Sat, 02/12/2022 - 2:54am

Came here to post a quick update on the divorce.

I filed & paid my taxes tonight from my old TurboTax account. TurboTax alerted STBXH, who has not yet done his taxes, and he emailed me asking if that was me (yes) and if I filed joint or separate (separate, DUH), and wrote, "I know you are upset, but we have some unfinished business. Please contact me, so we can tie up these loose ends."

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Circling the Drain

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Sat, 10/09/2021 - 11:10am

Update from my previous "Full Circle" blog:

https://www.steptalk.org/blog/stepultimate/full-circle-271039

STBXH was served this week, and went from acceptance to cold & butt-hurt, arguing against divorce (=my reasons are not legitimate!), trying to get me to change my mind & continue "working on" our marriage. 

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Filed.

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Wed, 09/29/2021 - 8:25pm

Update to previous blog here:

https://www.steptalk.org/blog/stepultimate/stbx-update-270954

Filed today. 5.5 years married. STBXH moves to his new apt tomorrow, unclear when his crying, begging, blaming, and "I just don't understand!" will end. It's exhausting.

Tough day, but bright future not living with conflict & financial insanity. Whatever the co$t is, it's the price of freedom. 

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STBX Update

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Tue, 09/28/2021 - 1:46am

STBXH has received advice from a "bro" to get an attorney & file 1st so he can juice my retirement. But I could make all this go away if I'd just stay with him & try to work it out. We could buy a house together. 

That b.s. had me going, "He just f*cking jumped the shark." 

There was more, but it was in general interesting to see him rotate through the playbook while observing his casting himself as the victim. From mamy different angles. 

It sucks so. Much. Energy.

No more enduring skid holidays in my future. 

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SO RELIEVED!

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Sun, 09/19/2021 - 6:03pm

STBXH (1st time typing that) is now clear I am done. It went better than I could have asked, and now my worst fear is behind me. I clearly, peacefully, and thoroughly said everything I needed to say, and he didn't get angry or arguementative.

Deep down he knew. I am relieved he is being respectful, and that he owned his part & totally shifted gears to acceptance. 

 

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Separated & appreciating...

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Sun, 09/05/2021 - 11:16pm

...  peace & calm, as DH agreed to move out temporarily. No mantrums, love-bombing, or daily infomercials on newly-purchased expensive stuff (specific outdoor/sport activity equipment & gear, think REI on steroids). No anxiety counting down until DH comes home, because he's not here. Rented a place from his friend, temporary but at least he's gone. 

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