Ok so, Christmas basically SUCKED BIG time!
I guess I'll start where I left off. DH p/u all the kids from my dads and "talked" to SD about her attitude on the way home. She was nasty and made all kinds of crappy remarks. Nothing unusual right? So, he had to stop at the grocery store and left her in the truck to "think" about if she wanted to move back in w/sugarmama and to have her decision made by the time he came back.
He said when he came back, she had been crying and had decided to stay w/us.....lucky me. So he politely begged me not to take the gifts to the orphanage...good thing he caught me, as I was pulling into the drive. Nothing more was said about anything until after my family had all gone home about 11. Then, I realized my brother had left a gift and p/u the phone to call him and guess who was on it and made a long distance call (all after specifically being told not to!)....yep....SD. So I interrupted her conversation and asked her if she was on the phone long distance...sure enough. So I told her that she knew better and to get off the phone NOW! I refused to hang up until she got off the phone with the stupid boy. I was soooooo pissed! I told DH who said to let it go b/c it was Christmas. I said F*CK that...I don't care what day it is, she HAS to follow the rules.
He ignored me and took the puppy out to pee. So, I went to her room to get the phone. I asked her if she thought she didn't have to follow the rules b/c I made it and she said yes. I then told her that I didn't give a shit if it was Christmas or not, she was going to follow my rules and if she didn't, she would suffer the consequences. She then started screaming that I was trying to sabatoge her life and already ruined her sisters and sugarmama's lives. (this is classic BPD). I didn't even know DH until sugarmama and he had been divorced for a couple of yrs.... She then started on this tangent about how DH never paid sugarmama CS and that made her be in the situation she's in now..... WHATEVER..that biotch got all the CS we were ever ordered to pay her and then some. I could tell right then and there that sugarmama had been getting into her head. About that time, DH comes in to hear us arguing and sees me about to hurl the phone at her head and steps between us. He tells me to get out of her room....fine, I go out and sit in the living room and listen to her go on and on about all the evil things I supposedly said to her, none of which I did by the way. So then I interject and say "she's nothing more than a spoiled brat"...to which DH replies "& you are a bitch..." WTF? I got up and went into the laundry room fuming. I then got on my coat and left. Went driving around until stepwitch called and calmed me down. I swear if it hadn't have been Christmas Eve and the boys weren't depending on Santa, I would have left.
I eventually went home and slept on the couch. Got up next morning to a crappy day, I thought might get better, boy was I wrong. Since he begged me not to return the ipod, I put it under the tree, but I did NOT make her a stocking. I told him "santa" didn't have the energy to do one for her this year. He didn't say much about that. She only had 3 presents on the tree and I didn't suggest he get her up. One of our BS suggested we get her up....to which I ignored. he got her up anyway and she opened the few presents she had. When she opened the ipod, she rolled her eyes b/c it wasn't the one she wanted. DH didn't see it, but I did. I didn't say anything, to avoid a fight. After a while, I continued to ignore DH and helped the boys put together some of their toys. Eventually he started screaming at me saying what a crappy day this was gonna be...I ignored him. Then SD came upstairs and asked her dad to remove the controls off her computer. I took the opportunity to ask herif she bothered to thank anyone for her gifts....she stormed off w/out a word and came back and threw them on the kitchen counter. Then Dh started yelling at me for being rude???? ME??? I thanked everyone for my gifts. Anywho, he took a shower and got dressed and was putting on his shoes like he was going someplace. I asked where, he said "I'm leaving." I said " I can see that, where are you going?" He said "NO, for good". I was shocked ladies. Completely shocked. Even though I was preparing myself for this to come, I surely didn't think it would be on Christmas day....... ( i will post the rest in part 3 as this one seems to be turning into a novel, and I am at work....)...