Ok. SD17 moved in with us back in January. She lived in a very UNstable household with her BM and Step dad. Step dad has "explosive disorder" and lives off of the system and Bio Mom is bi-polar and lives off of the system. SD is 17 and when she moved in with us, she didn't even know what a W2 was. Well, the beginning of March, she went to visit her mom, and never came home. She called on Sunday and said that she was sick and didn't think she could make the drive home (it's 1 1/2 hr. drive). Said that she would just not go to school on Monday and that she would be home when we got home from work. Well, when we got home on Monday afternoon, some of her things were gone and we found a note from her telling us that she moved back to that hell hole her bio mom calls a home and for us not to call her b/c she would refuse to talk to us. This was March. Well here it is June, and my hubby is still very angry with her b/c she still has not tried to contact him (he has sent her letters) but she has contacted her sister, hubby's mother and brother etc. Well, hubby's mother is pushing him to call her telling him that he needs to make the first move with her that she is scared about what he is going to say to her. Oh, did I mention that this is the 2nd time she has done this? Ya, she did it when she was 15 too. So, she knew exactly what she was doing. Anyway, hubby's brother is staying with us right now, and he had a conversation with my hubby about her and said that he needed to talk to her, hubby agreed, but said that when she calls, he would talk to her and not untill then. She is 17 and has done this before, it is time for her to grow up and face the music! Well, hubby's brother called her on the phone and handed it to hubby and said "Here, you need to talk to her." WTF!!! Just because everyone else feels sorry for her and has forgiven her, doesn't mean that my hubby is ready to talk to her. He is still very angry and when he talked to her he said some things he should not have said because he was still so angry. I just feel like his family is pusing the issue and needs to but out of our business. Now, hubby's mother has said that she is going to go p/u SD this Friday so she can spend the weekend and that he needs to come over and talk to her! Hello!!!!! Am I the only one here that thinks that they need to but out and let him talk to her when he is ready, not when everyone else thinks he should be ready? Please, let me know if I am in the wrong here!