Not even sure where to start with out this turning into a novel. SD moved out back in May and was 17. (She just turned 18 a month ago) Moved in with some boy and a few friends that she has known for a few months at that time. Reason for moving out since she did have it good at her moms is she did not like the rules. Well love everyone has rules in some form or fashion. Anyway, SD found out boyfriend was cheating on her multiple times and now she is done. She has no car because BM took that away from her and SD has no job. She drinks, smokes weed and vapes. DH had stated that he wanted to help her get a car that way she can drive to where she is working and to school (which is 30 minutes away close to mom). If we do not do this then I have to take here where she needs to go because I am currently a Stay at home mom. We do not have the funds at this time because a major appliance in our home went out that cost us over 2100 to replace. Plus DH is about to be laid off.

So now I am looking to go back to work so we can stay afloat yet now we are housing another person whom currently thinks she can mooch off anyone whom allows it. I do want to help her because I know we all have been stuck in our lives at one point, but she has not worked in month in which that was her choice, she spends all the money she gets and buys clothes, drugs, etc. She also just found a kitten in which I helped with food and litter since we just lots one cat here so it really was not much out of my pocket.

Anyway sorry. So DH wants to help her get a car, then what about the care insurance, the cell phone bill because BM is paying that now, more food in the house, other house hold bills go up, what about all the furniture she has now? Would we have to get s storage unit and if so whom is paying for that? We moved our child in her old room because its more space and then put the office in the old nursery. So she would either have to sleep in the basement or in the spare room. I had suggested selling the things she has now to pay towards the car, etc. But then DH stated she could store her stuff at monster-in-laws house. I am sure that would be a shit show because we stopped talking to almost a half a year ago because she is a nasty person.

I suggested SD go live with her. But DH said no, not a good idea. The other thing that upset me is child support just stopped and the Step Dad agreed to pay back what they were getting once SD had moved out. DH called him the afternoon before finding out SD need a place to stay and wanted to talk about it. Now he says he feel bad because he thinks it looks like is integrity is not there and that he was trying to get his money back before she moved in with us. Why does that matter. When we had full custody for 5 years, BM never paid CS and then when SD moved in with BM we had to pay CS. What I do not understand is DH is so quick to tell me I need to help out more but never his ex. DH also tried to guilt trip me on if it was our son in this situation and if I was with someone else and we were not married, then the person I was with would need to understand and help. Its odd because I know a handful of people whom are parents and do not push the step parent in paying for things or being a shover etc. I have done all that for over 10 years.

I just do not know what to do anymore. It has been so bad when she was here and its been good when she has not been here. The fact your not going to have her pay rent, or help on other bills just hers is BS. And once again having to lock up my stuff and get more camera in the house just to make sure our stuff is not being stolen. I can keep going on and on, this is long enough. Thanks for reading!!