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A bowl of soup and how I deserve it

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Submitted by Sarah101 on Tue, 03/24/2009 - 2:12pm

Sometimes signs come at strange moments. This weekend I was at a fancypants hotel having a fancypants lunch with a work colleague prior to a presentation that I had to give to fancypants people, and we were served the fanciest soup I have ever seen. I remarked on the fanciness of the soup, and my colleague replied, "Enjoy it! You are an incredible woman and you deserve the very best."

To my horror, I started to cry over my fancy soup. It is never a good idea to cry in full makeup and a suit prior to a large presentation. But I couldn't help it.

Junkie SD19 invites herself for Christmas

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Submitted by Sarah101 on Tue, 12/23/2008 - 8:33am

I am livid! Last night H gets off the phone with the cokehead drug-dealer junkie SD19 and announces to me that she will be coming to Christmas dinner--which means all day. Maybe a few days, too, because SD19 will of course want to stay for a hot shower and a warm bed, and food in the fridge.

I uncorked on him. Don't I deserve to be ASKED before people are invited into my home? Especially junkie drug-dealers? Don't I have a say in this decision? And, by the way, my answer is NO NO NO!

Dropped the D-Bomb. Marriage Over. I Quit.

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Submitted by Sarah101 on Wed, 11/26/2008 - 3:42pm

The past weekend I finally had enough. You know those "lightbulb" moments where everything comes into focus and becomes clear? I had such a moment, and it was the final straw. It has taken me this long to write about it because I am so heartbroken--words just cannot fully give justice to the range of emotions I am feeling right now. Mostly grief.

Guilt Parenting + Holidays + Bad Economy = DISASTER

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Submitted by Sarah101 on Tue, 11/18/2008 - 4:15pm

I've been following the "guilt parenting" threads for a while now, and it sure seems that the behavior is getting ramped up for the Happy Holiday Season!

Before I became a "step," holidays were a time for family and joy. Now the holidays have turned into Hellidays, and I am dreading them already. Add the bad economy into the mix, and my stomach starts to churn.

I think I may be disengaging from my marriage

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Submitted by Sarah101 on Mon, 11/10/2008 - 1:25pm

For the past couple of weeks I have been coming to terms with the fact that I will never come first for DH, and neither will our marriage. I have been grieving, really.

I hear DH say the right words that he loves me, time and again, but as soon as his adult children enter the picture with their latest "wants," our plans together turn to dust. When I protest, I am told that I am not "thinking right" or that I "just don't understand" or that I "hate DHs' kids." (Well, at least the latter is accurate).

Update: Still here, still despised by adult skids

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Submitted by Sarah101 on Tue, 10/28/2008 - 5:17pm

Hi everyone! I continue my quest to illustrate through example the result of poor parenting, poor boundaries, and allowing little entitled brats to grow into adult entitled brats.

Yes, I made the mistake of marrying the man I love. I had no idea the extent of the dysfunction with his 5 adult children until after-the-vows. Oh, had I known--and who in their right mind can really know?--I wouldn't be here now.

Anyway, here's the update.

SD24 tries to apologize and fails miserably--I let her have it

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Submitted by Sarah101 on Mon, 07/28/2008 - 5:25pm

First, the spew:

SD24 is the most disgusting of DH's 5 adult children. Of all of them, she is most like her bipolar mother. SD24 is a compulsive liar, a gold digger, and has made the mistake of believing her own lies. She thinks she can control people and situations and loves creating family drama, and instigates fights among the "gaggle" of DH's 4 adult daughters. SD24 has been behind most of the slander and disrespect that has been directed at me and her father over the years. She has been the "jealous wife."

SD18 apologizes--still in shock!

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Submitted by Sarah101 on Mon, 07/14/2008 - 9:02am

Truly--I am in shock.

SD18 appeared at our home yesterday to apologize for breaking into our room and stealing from us back in February. Back then, we immediately kicked her out--our home contract made it clear that being kicked out was the consequence for stealing. We knew that stealing meant the SD18 was using drugs again (coke and pot).

Oh, she HATED us! We were unfair! I was a bitch! Her dad was being brainwashed!

Pathetic, PATHETIC adult skids

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Submitted by Sarah101 on Sun, 06/08/2008 - 2:34pm

Ever since SS21 yelled FU! to DH over the phone, we've heard nothing from SS21. Probably because we shut off his cell phone, which we were paying for.

DH balked at first. How would SS21 call home? How would he call his PO? How would he hear back from employers? (SS21 recently got fired for yelling FU! to his boss). Then I said, "How would he call his dad and tell him to FU?" I swear, DH must think SS21 is a bonafide RETARD. No, he's just a lazy, entitled, under-educated, addict-alcoholic.

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