After an email fight with XH, in which I pointed out that he legally HAD to send me my middle 2 PAS'd kids, I had a pleasant Christmas.

I had decided that for my PAS'd kids, I would get them a little something each. I didn't get a gift card or money, as that seemed a bit impersonal, so I got them things that I knew that they would like. Even if they derided it to my face, deep down they will know that I care, and that I know the real them.

That being said, I'm no push-over either. I gave them personal, *small* gifts each. They got no where near the amount dollar-wise that my other 2 kids got, and they know it. I love them, but I'm not going to break either my bank or my spirit trying to buy their affection.

And we did have a nice visit. I talked about things that I knew that they were interested in. We laughed and joked. I didn't passive-aggressively suggest that they should come over more. I just enjoyed the moment for what it was. And when it was done, my oldest son and I went to a Christmas party and had a great time.

I was prepared for XH to pull some stuff with the pick-up, and he did. But it was minor and didn't have the impact that he thought it would. In our email fight, I told XH that if he didn't send the kids out at 11 AM, then I would call the police to exercise my visitation rights. He met me at the door with a no-trespass notice, since he says I threatened him. I laughed; I never go to his home ever, and my "threat" was a natural, legal consequence that happens when you don't follow court orders. But at least the police didn't get called, and the visit was nice. So I call it a win.