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Christmas turned out better than I thought.

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Submitted by rockermom on Mon, 12/26/2011 - 2:24pm

After an email fight with XH, in which I pointed out that he legally HAD to send me my middle 2 PAS'd kids, I had a pleasant Christmas.

I had decided that for my PAS'd kids, I would get them a little something each. I didn't get a gift card or money, as that seemed a bit impersonal, so I got them things that I knew that they would like. Even if they derided it to my face, deep down they will know that I care, and that I know the real them.

Christmas and PAS'd kids.

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Submitted by rockermom on Sat, 12/10/2011 - 8:56am

My two middle kids (ages 15 and 12) are totally PAS'd against me by their molester father. They were calling the police with false abuse reports against me. I was told by their attorney that if they continued to do this, then she was afraid that DCF would get involved and take them away from both of us, so she was recommending that molester-father get full legal and physical custody of all 3 kids! Inspite of an on-going police investigation!

So hurt. LONG

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Submitted by rockermom on Fri, 10/07/2011 - 5:12am

I had posted before about my 14 YO daughter and my 12 YO son giving me problems. A couple of weeks ago, I asked them if they wanted to live with their father full-time. They both, without hesitation, said "yes". I told them that I loved them, but I wanted them to be happy. So they live with XH2 full-time now. The issue is that now, they completely ignore me.

The apology.

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Submitted by rockermom on Thu, 01/06/2011 - 5:59pm

My BF's step-D caused trouble for me on New Year's Day. I posted it under the "Adult Stepkids" forum. Since then, she has apologized, but to me, it seemed like what I call a "non-apology". I have read some sites that state that the components of a real apology are:

1. The wrong-doer admits to wrong-doing
2. The wrong-doer accepts responsibility for their actions
3. The wrong-doer tries to make amends
4. The wrong-doer vows not to do the hurtful act again, and actually works at not doing it again.