Is there an epidemic? DH rudely ignored me
But skid did not.
DH and I had just started a conversation and I asked him a question as skid walked up. Skid asked for DH to quiz him with homework later...meaning when we were done. DH asked skid what it was. Fine. I'll wait. Then DH asked skid a few questions. Fine, maybe he's seeing if skid needs to study more. I'll wait.
DH proceeds to quiz skid on the whole thing and ignore me, not even ask if we can continue our conversation later. Was it important? No. Could it wait? Yes. Would he have asked those questions and been politer to a coworker, friend, or relative? Yes, cause I've seen it. He does it with them.
I do let him know when it happens and he's good for a while but it doesn't seem to stick. Since other DHs seem to be having trouble these last few days, I wonder now if it's seasonal or viral. 
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My steps don't have a clue
My steps don't have a clue how to not interrupt and DH doesn't have a clue most of the time to say wait ur turn... I tell them to wait .. But I guess I won't be any more bc I'm just so damn mean to them
I am not one to just let
I am not one to just let things go and wait to discuss them later, when it's (in my mind) too late. I had already confronted DH about this before I even wrote the blog posting.
His response was that he didn't mean to do it. I replied that that's really worse (than if he had meant to do it) because that means it's a habit.
I was trying to be
I was trying to be polite/patient by waiting a little. And, DH gets upset when he thinks I'm treating him like one of the kids.
Trust me, I want to do what you suggest but my biggest dilemma is getting myself to say it without sounding scathing and sarcastic.
Thanks, that made me laugh.
Thanks, that made me laugh. DH would really know something is up if I said it in a chipper, light-hearted, sugary-sweet, vomit-inducing manner. That is sooooo NOT me.
Huh, I can't even imagine it. I am definitely gonna have to practice. Maybe in the car to/from work where no one can hear me.
You need a quirt bottle of
You need a quirt bottle of water.
Squirt skid for interrupting and DH for ignoring you.
it has to be epidemic. dh
it has to be epidemic. dh does this, but the ironic part is, the THINKS he's doing well!!!
**tuff n dh discussing important matter**
"nnnngggddddaaaaadddyyyy????????"
**dh ignores**
"hey ddddaaaadyyyy."
**dh ignores**
**yss whistles, paces, claps, general noise making**
"YSS! QUIT. i'm talking with tuff."
**noise making continues**
"YSS, i said KNOCK IT OFF."
"but i just wanted to tell you that blah blah blah blah"
**dh continues conversing, but with yss**
**tuff gets up and walks away**
:?
If this happens, immediately
If this happens, immediately get up, leave the room and go do something YOU want to do. Read a book, take a long bubble bath. Take a long time before you ever reengage with your DH. It might take a long while but your clueless DH will figure it out.
I did say "EXCUSE ME" and
I did say "EXCUSE ME" and walked between them because it was the only way to get to the bedroom. He still didn't get it. No, I don't ever stand there and take it. I remove myself. If I don't I know I will just get madder and madder, so why continue to torture myself. I was getting changed to go work out but DH came in so we talked about it then (see above response for what happened).
What I should do is rent something huge and nasty for the house (like a gigantic lizard sculpture) that doesn't go with the decor. Tell DH that he missed out on the decision to get it/not get it.
I just had the most evil
I just had the most evil thought: every time he does this I get another cat. He'd definitely pay attention then!
(We already have a few and he's not crazy about them.)
Let the record show that the
Let the record show that the skid was being respectful. He did not interrupt anyone talking. He waited until I finished my sentence. And he asked if it could be later. And he looked uncomfortable when DH changed focus, he realized we were in the middle of a conversation.
point clear it's the dh's
point clear
it's the dh's ways of handling it that makes u want to beat your head on the desk, whether or not the kid actually interrupts or not. sometimes they *think* they're doing it right (like mine) or sometimes they dont even care, but just the fact that at some point in time u become irrelevant, that is maddening.