First - I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas. My family did enjoy ours and there was only a little bit of drama - not too much but since this is the site for venting, I'd like to get it out. First - SD16 was with us and she went to work on Sat morning. By the afternoon, SO called me...I was out shopping with my daughter and he asked if I would mind bringing Tylenol to SD16 as she had gotten her monthly. He & I share a car so he couldn't do it since I had the car. But, sure - no problem. Her job was a good 25 mins from where I was shopping (with snow and traffic) but I remember those days, so I did it. Later he told me, he asked BM to bring her some and she told him NO. His weekend, his problem was pretty much her stance. No car? Take the bus. She made the whole argument about herself and how she had things to do, etc. Mind you - it would have taken her 10-15 mins to get to SD. But, she's a bitch so no surprise there.
Now - SD18 was at my house on Friday. We picked both girls up but SD18 got in the car first. Whiling waiting for SD16, she was complaining that BM told her that no one on her side of the family wanted her around so she couldn't go to her grandmother's on xmas. She was so pissed about it - that if they didn't want to be supportive of her, then forget them. SMH - she still doesn't get the damage she's done. After we got home, I went back out - didn't really feel like spending time with that girl. SD18 has to be back at the group home by 8. I picked up pizza and got home about 6. Right after we ate, SO was taking her back and he had to stop somewhere so they left about 7ish. Right before that, SD18 casually says, just loud enough for me to hear, I think I have strep throat. Excuse me? You're sick and bringing that into my house?? She KNOWS how I feel about that - yes, I am a bit of a germophobe. She was supposed to come back on Sun & Mon but I told her if you're really sick, you can't come here. On Sun morning, she called her dad (she was on speaker) to say she had strep. She had gone to the doctor and she had strep so she wasn't coming over. She said she was up all night in pain, was really feeling sick and had given it to 2 other people in the group home. He asked her if she gotten any meds and she no, they told her to just take Tylenol cause its viral. WHAT? Mother of 3 here who's dealt with many bouts of strep - its not viral....its bacterial and you need antibiotics. I didn't say a word. Let it go - cause maybe she misunderstood doctor - whatever, I don't care. Just don't want any sickness in my house. He felt bad for her and told me he hopes she was better by Mon, so she could spend Christmas with us which was the plan also. Xmas eve was nice - we went to a movie. On the way home from dropping SD16 off, SO told me about a conversation he had with her earlier in the day. SD16 is angrier at SD18 then he thought. She told him she didn't believe her sister even had strep because she's lied about stuff like that before to get out of doing something. She also told him she didn't think her sister was going to school cause BM keeps getting notices about her absences. She says her sister hasn't changed and she's just really mad at her still. I told him about having strep and that you need actual meds for that - not Tylenol. He sounded so disappointed as he hoped she was really trying to change her ways. While in the car, SD18 calls him.....hi daddy - can you bring my xmas presents over tonight? In my head, I am f-bombing all over the place. But he tells her no - he'll pick her up in the morning. We were having my family over for a big breakfast and opening gifts. She said ok. Christmas morning - she calls to say she's not coming over cause she's going with BM to grandma's house. Mind you - I DON'T CARE....but I can see how disappointed SO is. We talked about it a little - my stance was that she was originally going to be with BM on xmas day until she thought she wasn't welcomed. So if things worked out and she wanted to stick to those plans, that would be fine. But if she lied about being sick just to get out of coming with us, that's really crappy and so unnecessary and immature. This morning - he drops this little pearl on me: after work, we'll pick up SD18 so we can give her the xmas presents....is that ok? Yea - sure. Ugh - this kid. BEFORE SHE TOUCHES ONE GIFT, I INTEND TO HAVE THAT TALK WITH HER SO SHE IS 1000% CLEAR ON WHERE I STAND.