I'm a little irriated. VENT

Last night dh said he is still upset about my ex writing my son b/c he keeps putting in there that he still loves me. I have told his sister to tell him not to do that but I can't stop it. I told dh to not read them as my son doesn't tell him or me he ignores it. Now remember he is in prison. This is the only thing he does, he doesn';t talk sh!t about anyone only that he says he still loves me. Now I understand why he is upset but what can I do other then keep telling his family to tell him to stop.

So I asked dh how does he think I feel? I mean his ex is always in my face I can't get away from her! At least he only has to deal with one thing and only every few months. I have to deal with his ex all the time! Including her talk sh!t about my kids and to have her say all the friggin time that my dd doesn't look like me. And he hasn't said crap to her only ignore her and expects me to do the same!

So why can he be upset and not me?

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You can't control what other

You can't control what other people will do or say. This is exactly why I TRY to cut DH slack when it comes to BM#2. He has told her until he is blue in the face to stop calling about stupid crap that doesn't pertain to SS12 but every once in a while she still does it and I can't help but get mad, but I do try to curb my anger by remembering that he just can't control when she is going to dial that phone and decide that she has some dilemma that she needs to share. Which I think is exaclty the reason that I hate her so much.. that she gets a free pass simply because she birthed SS... ugh. If there was no SS, she wouldn't be calling DH and if she did he would tell her to pound salt and wouldn't care what she thought, said or did.

I would let your ExH know

I would let your ExH know that you will be intercepting any mail that comes to your son from him, & anything that mentions his feelings for you will be discarded. His feelings for you have NOTHING to do with your son & he doesn't need any confusion by reading things like that.

Regardless of yours or your DH's feelings about it, it isn't going to help your son cope with your split from his dad to read about that.

I see what you both are

I see what you both are saying but that was not the purpose of my blog. I am upset that dh seems to think he can be upset that my ex sends letters to my son every few months and he only has to deal with it every few months. But I have to deal with his ex almost on a daily basis but he never says anything to her about the crap she says about me or my kids. But then he expects me to make my ex stop saying that he still loves me. That is the only thing he has to deal with but I have to deal with all kinds of crap from his ex and he says nothing to her! he ignores her and expects me to do the same. That is why I'm upset He expects me to do the something but not willing to do the same.

"Now I understand why he is

"Now I understand why he is upset but what can I do other then keep telling his family to tell him to stop. "
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This is the question I was answering.

I guess my concern was more with the effect that your exH's actions can have on your child than how it affects things between you & your DH.

I was just pointing out that there IS more you can & probably should do for your son's sake than telling his family to tell him to stop.

I have already told his

I have already told his family that our son doesn;t need to be pout in that position and that he needs to keep things about his relationship with his son and not about me. I have voiced my concern with it several times with his family and they agreed with me. I can not send him a letter as my dh asked me not to so i'm trying to respect his wishes.