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Visions of an 80's horror film.

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Submitted by Patsy on Wed, 05/14/2014 - 11:53am

This weekend is my DH's birthday celebration. He has decided we get together with some of his friends and set up camp for the weekend. That sounded so good to me in the beginning then DH tells me last night my in-laws are going to come up Saturday night. I have two sets since his parents are divorced. I wanted to scream, but I held it together and just said OK. There are many things my in-laws disagree on, but both sets agree I should be helping DH out by reconciling with my SD17 and allowing her back in our home. I feel like this weekend is going to be so unbearable now. I am trying to think of ways to avoid the topic of my SD. I have thought about just spending time with my Dh's friend's wives while they are there, but I have a feeling my in-laws will just further poke at my DH about the situation and by the end of the night my DH will be back to trying to guilt me and blame me. I do not want this to happen when I am stuck at a friggin camp ground with all these people I barely know.

I have visions of an 80's horror film dancing in my head!

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Submitted by Patsy on Wed, 05/14/2014 - 12:04pm

If only it were that easy. That response will get me in hot water with DH and make my in-laws even more furious. I really wish I could get away with that.

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Submitted by amber3902 on Wed, 05/14/2014 - 12:03pm

Ugh that's tough. I would either skip the whole trip, or go into town Saturday night. But even if you avoid them, they're still probably going to put a bug in your DH's ear.

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Submitted by Patsy on Wed, 05/14/2014 - 12:06pm

Yep, I'm pretty much screwed either way. LOL DH knows I will try to run. I will be away Saturday afternoon for a softball game, but my in-laws will be there for that too. I am trying so hard since it is all my DH wants for his birthday.

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Submitted by Patsy on Wed, 05/14/2014 - 12:12pm

At first I thought that would put an end to it all, but DH and FIL were together one night this week and after that DH brought up SD again to me. He told me SD and him were planning to get together the next night. All I said to him was for him to give me more notice next time. He blew up! Saying I'm the one pushing for him to meet her weekly. I am so tired of my DH allowing my FIL to push his buttons about me.

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Submitted by Patsy on Wed, 05/14/2014 - 12:19pm

I'm thinking of saying exactly thi^^^. Do you think I should give my DH the heads up that this is my plan?

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Submitted by Patsy on Wed, 05/14/2014 - 12:40pm

You are right I do not want any focus on me. Oh boy now if my DH would do the same that would be awesome. Oh well I can't control everything.

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Submitted by Patsy on Wed, 05/14/2014 - 3:12pm

I am more at the removing myself from his presence, but I find it just gives him more room to shoot his mouth off...

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Submitted by clydella on Thu, 05/15/2014 - 7:04am

Oh yes, cue the scary music now Biggrin I agree just don't discuss her, that is the approach that I & DH have taken with my in-laws, especially my MIL. It was like beating a dead horse with her, every time we were around that's all she wanted to discuss, well what about SD this and what about SD that. DH asked her to stop, she wouldn't so I started leaving the room whenever SD was brought up and DH started following me, that plus we just stopped going around MIL. It's only took about a year or so but MIL is getting it, when we are around her now, SD is not mentioned.

Good luck with your weekend, I hope you & your DH enjoy it!!