We are redoing our wills and adjusting our estate planning.  It's just time, SS19 is an adult now so provisions for him as a minor don't make sense anymore and there are things we just wish to state differently.

So BM and SS18 are making a point to send my DH emails that say that SS18 can't look for a job because there's no point in him getting one if he can't get there because DH hasn't provided the 18 year old who doesn't have a driver's license with a vehicle.  I guess they think this will make my DH cave and buy him a car?  That somehow saying that is going to make my DH feel guilty and punished or that he's holding back his only poor child who can not get to a job.  When my DH asekd if my SS18 had his driver license yet. he said he had worked on it "a little".

So DH feels that SS18 does actually need a car, even if it is BM's fault for living in a place with no transportation, no jobs and no real benefits.  He has been very entitled and refusing to accept a hand me down car in the past.  If you read my past blogs the car issue has been a major insult to injury situation with my DH offering him his old car before we sold it to a friend a few years ago when SS18 said he would never drive a used Honda that was 8-9 years old.

I spoke to the CS office yesterday and they confirmed that after two more checks (including Monday's check) they will send a letter to stop the income withholding from DH's paychecks for BM's CS.  Any money that comes in after that (depending on how long the withholding takes to stop) will come back to us in the mail. Less than a month!