Poor SD. BM is so heartless.
So SD had a school conference on Monday where she shows the parent all the college readiness projects she's been working on all year and goes over her planned schedule for future classes and how it sets her up for college. I always go to all the school functions/meetings/conferences on behalf of my DH because he has one of those jobs that he honestly cannot take off for without a 2 month notice (crazy but we make it work). He has custody and in the CO he is the parent that makes any and all final education related decisions. We are on the same page and discuss those things regularly so I really am an extension of him in this aspect so I attend them for him.
Last night at bed time SD is nearly in tears because her BM is ripping her a new one because she is upset that SD did not tell her about the conference. She's upset because she feels that SD told me because she wanted me to go instead of her BM. SD swears that she did tell BM about the conference and she really does have a good memory when it comes to these things. But no matter what she tells BM she is still continuing to rip her via text message.
So here's the deal .... SD has already had 2 conferences this year that BM didn't attend or even mention. Yes, I went to both! SS has had 3 conferences this year... BM - 0, Me - 3. AND BM gets all the same damn school emails that DH and I get so I know damn well that she got the same 2 damn emails that I did regarding this conference.
So now BM has decided that SD needs to make it up to her and hold another conference at the school just for her. How embarrassing this would be! Poor kid! SD doesn't want to do it. And if she does, it will damn well be on her time because SD will not miss a class period to cater to her BM because she can't get her shit straight! She probably only found out about it by gossiping with one of the mom's who actually went.
Poor kid already has enough daily drama at school from dealing with a bunch of snotty teen girls!
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I think your DH needs to step
I think your DH needs to step in (in writing) and put a stop to this. Say something like, "I have seen what you are saying to SD about her conference. Whether or not she told you is irrelevant. She is a child. You are an adult. You get the school emails just like we do. Leave SD out of this."
Poor SD. I also go to all
Poor SD.
I also go to all PTC's. SO goes to as many as he can but he only gets 10 days of leave a year.
BM hasn't gone to the school except for registration in the summer for 3yrs. She then has the nerve to accuse SO and I of poisoning the school against her. Her permanent residence is in La La Land.
Yeah I think this is perfect.
Yeah I think this is perfect. You need to let SD believe her when she says that she told BM, and not to worry since its not her fault BM didn't come. BM is probably just upset about missing it and isn't expressing herself in the right way (aka blaming SD instead of herself for shitty parenting) Then DH needs to email BM telling her it's her fault she missed it and SD isn't going to do a redo just for her ESPECIALLY after she's making SD feel like crap about the whole thing.
Apparently today she hasn't
Apparently today she hasn't texted at all. Got a bad feeling that she's just waiting until tomorrow when she picks her up to continue her tantrum. SD is getting to the point on her own where she doesn't want to be around her but won't say it out loud. Tomorrow may be the day.