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Feel like a fraud on Mother's Day

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Submitted by Ninji on Mon, 05/04/2015 - 1:10pm

BM hasn't wanted her kids for Mother's Day EVER!

This year I asked SO if we could have a kid free weekend the weekend of Mother's Day. He asked her and of course she doesn't want them. Mini argument between me and SO ensued but that's another story.

SO usually buys me something and takes me out for breakfast on Mother's Day. I put up with it for the kids. Their own mom doesn't want to share the day with them, I don't want to reject them too.

I read StepMonster this weekend

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Submitted by Ninji on Mon, 05/04/2015 - 8:21am

It actually made me unbelievably sad.

I actually don't have it that bad. SO and I are on the same page most of the time in regards to BM and Skids (Now, it was really hard the first couple of years)

But reading that book just made the whole situation feel doomed, like there isn't really a light at the end of the tunnel.

When SS ages out in 9 yrs, it's really just the beginning. It's easy to separate holiday, birthdays and other events now. Will it be so easy when Skids have kids of their own.

AHHHHHHHHHHH, maybe I'm just in a mood.

Dr. Phil and CS

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Submitted by Ninji on Wed, 04/29/2015 - 7:43am

Watching an old Dr. Phil.

BM lost custody of her children to her EXH. She has two new children with her current DH. She is a SAHM and has been court ordered to pay $150 a month CS.

BM tells Dr. Phil that she isn't working now and that is why she is behind in CS. Dr. Phil is telling her that because she lives in a nice house paid for by her current DH and her current DH has received a few raises, that he should be paying her CS.

I don't know if I agree with this. I know personally, I would never give my skids BM a dime of my money.

Do you get mad at Skids for the same things that SO does

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Submitted by Ninji on Wed, 04/22/2015 - 11:29am

The same crap that I get on Skids ass about is the exact same crap that SO pulls.

Kids never remember their laundry. It took them 10hrs to do two loads last Sunday.
SO put one load of laundry in the washer on Monday and that's where it sat until Tuesday when I noticed it. He does this all the time.

Finances

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Submitted by Ninji on Mon, 04/20/2015 - 1:04pm

SO and I have separate finances.

I know that many individuals on this site feel that his money is his money and my money is my money. That's fine to a certain extent but what about when it come to OUR future together.

I think I just figured something out.

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Submitted by Ninji on Tue, 04/14/2015 - 9:42am

We got our first dog together "as a family" about three years ago. Immediately, SD and SS began calling themselves mom and dad to the dog. "Come to mommy" or "Daddy loves you". It always bothered me.

We have since added two more dogs, two cats (one has since gone missing), a fish and two hamsters. It's the same. SD and SS call refer to themselves as mom and dad or 2nd mom and 2nd dad to the pets.

More excuses for SS

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Submitted by Ninji on Mon, 04/13/2015 - 1:17pm

I swear I should start a journal for all the excuses that SO thinks up for SS9's behavior and give it to him when SS ages out, can't keep a job and SO wants him to sleep on our couch.

This past Friday, I hear SO and SS in the living room and SS is telling SO how his older half-brother (BM's 15yr old from a different guy, HB15 from here on out) hits him all the time. I didn't hear the beginning of the conversation but I'm sure it was in response to something SS did wrong and this was his excuse.

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