I would be ripping my hair out. Doesn't have anything to do with being insecure. It's that feeling of them playing happy little family that makes you wanna hurl.
I get it sister, I really do.

I'm sorry this bothers you.
Just remember he's coming home to you.

Sorry, napamom.

I know it sucks for my SD that her parents can't stand each other but I am kind of glad my husband cannot be in the same vicinity as BM.

I hate it too. You aren't alone.

I am not insecure - DH will never go back to BM - even if I left him tomorrow - that is not my concern.

What bothers me is the pretend happy family bullshit that BM and often SD put on. SD and I get along fine, she is a good kid, but more than anything she wants mom and dad together. I don't blame her for that. But BM, she never wanted DH - but continues to 'use' him like a husband when it suits her - that is what gets my goat.

Also, for things for my girls, my XH who is less than 10 mins away from me doesn't attend crap like that for my kids. I do it all alone. No XH and no DH. So I guess that gets to me too.

Don't worry he's coming home to you. I have two events for my kids in the next week I have to go to with exh I really don't want to be in his presence right now anymore than I'm sure he wants to be in mine and body language tells a big story so I'd see it as it'll be obvious it's about your SD and not about playing family.

I simply hate that shit too. When BM's father passed, of course, DH had to attend the funeral to support SD14 because she and her grandfather were close. But knowing that he was at BM's home before and after the funeral, everyone crying, upset, BM crying on DH's shoulder - ICK.

Since DH was also close with her father, I felt the need to be there to support HIM, but yeah, that wasn't happening. There's no way I'd intrude on BM's father's funeral, even just to support DH.

But I do get what you're saying. Unfortunately, we decided to be with men with a past and child(ren)...with that comes them having to be with BM sometimes. It SUCKS ASS

I feel your pain Napa.

My DH is going to parent/teacher interviews this week with BM.

I don't like it. I've never liked it. Not because I'm afraid of them "getting back together". What bothers me is that someone might "assume" they are still married.

I hate how this woman can do sweet eff all for her daughter all year long, but show up at these school meetings like she's Mother Of The Year ("MOTY").

That woman has put us through hell this past year. She's the one that wants to attend the meeting with DH. (note, space is limited this year and they are encouraging parents to come together). She's also so LAZY that she can't be bothered to make the appointment herself. Its just easier for "someone else" to "arrange" it for her, i.e. "DH".

Its just one of those things. Its just a "front and center" reminder that your husband had a life before you came along. Just another reason being a Step Mother blows ass.