Like everyone else here, BM is a piece of crap... does drugs, drinks, lets the kids do whatever they want. There were several police reports done over 2 years about accidents that have happened to the skids in her care. She has a fiance who has a criminal record with 4/5 dui including vehicular manslaughter among many other things. She's had roommates come and gone, one of which was in a suspected murder/gang related. That's it in a nutshell.
Regardless of these things, she got full custody of the girls because they go to a specific school district where BM lives and the judge didn't like them being moved around. How this is more important than safety is beyond me.
Alright so a couple weeks ago SD6 spills out that I have been sick because there's a baby in my tummy. So she's been shooting hate daggers at me which I cooley ignore and pretend I don't see... secretly thinking to myself about how stupid and white trash she is.

Fast forward a week, DH sends her a proposal for a different custody arrangement without having to go to court. She and her fiance have been complaining about not wanting to go because DH isn't agreeing to her having full custody- him getting every other weekend and alternating holidays and 1 month out of 2 for summer vacation. She was fine with that agreement... the reason for his change in heart is that he's tired of this dump of a city. His business isn't doing well and we just can't stay in this economy any longer. He got a job where both of our family lives and be a good provider for me and the baby. Ever since, she glares at DH and very rude and short through email and text. Now, DH's arrangement he requested is very similar to what the court granted: every other weekend but to meet halfway between states to pick up the skids. Alternate holidays but he wants 2months summer and she gets a week in the summer (not my choice but whatever).

DH can't understand why she isn't happy about this proposal and why she has been acting so hateful all of a sudden. He thought she would be thrilled over this since it's not terribly different. BM has 2 baby daddies, DH is highschool friends with the other baby daddy. I told him it was obvious, that she wasn't over him despite their rough last year together and breakup that was 2 years ago. She's pissed that I'm having a baby and most likely wonders how come he married me and not her, after she had 2 of his children (classy right?). Then to top it off, she is no longer controlling where he lives... we heard from SD6 that BM doesn't want daddy moving away and she wants him to move closer to her or where we currently live.
So DH speaks with the other baby daddy about BMs "odd" behavior and baby daddy says the same exact thing I said and this dude has known her since they were like 14. That she's never gotten over him and thought he would never move on. That it's obvious she's been using the girls to have her way with him and control where he lives... using them as her pawn. Now she realizes he's moving on with his life with ME.

So onto the custody arrangement... NOW, she wants it changed. She doesn't want him to have weekends, she will not meet halfway, alternate holidays. Umm, less than the court ordered. She's doing it just to get back at him.
*huff* and we thought we were nice not fighting back for the full custody. DH was going to let the original court order rest for the most part as it stood, now he won't back down. They don't want to spend the money on attorney and court fees, well they're asking for it. Goodbye thousands of dollars