SO! I married him almost a year ago 02/2014 and we have been living together with his rotten children every other week since 2/2013 and all I have to say is it has gotten better on the team work front as my husband has realized his kids are shitheads and they will do anything and everything make us miserable, but it's still really hard.

I seriously had no idea what I was getting into. The hardest part is my brother is married to a wonderful woman with 4 children and they are completely happy and everyone, including my husband and I, love her kids and have accepted them into the family. I hate to use the word jealous but I am!! Why can't my husbands kids be normal??? Why can't they just be good kids??? My entire world I am surrounded by good kids except for them.

Words of advice-

Therapy! Therapy! Therapy!
I pushed to get both the kids in therapy because of their blatant disrespect and epic fits and at least their fits are manageable now.

I also went to therapy and what helped me the most is to not feel guilty over not loving them. I am not required to love them. I do help take care of them financially, and typical parenting stuff but It's not my job to love them. Accepting this fact has really helped me as now I don't care if they call me names and disrespect me I just stand my ground and they have learned that I mean what I say and I will follow thru on punishments and rewards. }:)

I know this has been all over the place but just some thoughts I wanted to get out