Now, if that's not enough to handle. Lets start on DH's parents...... DHsF is blind to truth even when he sees it, DHsM on the other hand accesses social media and sees and hears everything. She's rather upset. DHsF does not care what is being said and done saying BM has her own life, where DH'sM disagrees saying it affects my SS, although DHsM doesn't condone any of it but won't stand up and stop it or even speak about it to anyone but me.
They will take SS for days & weeks on end and send him over to me saying he's bored. I'm perfectly ok taking him when he SHOULD be here. I am also taking care of a lot of kids (my own) everyday that are here 24/7.

Now, they spoil the crap out of my SS but not their other GC, including my children with DH. On holidays they spend $50 or less on my kids which is fine with me.. Until they tell me "hey, do you think SS will like this?" Sure a $300 present along with the 10 others you already wrapped would suffice....wtf!?!

They spend every penny on SS cause BM has it so hard.... Also my SS basically lives with them because they are easily suckered and call or has SS call everyday since he was 2, begging to come over.. We wouldn't tolerate that. BM had no job, no other kids, no nothing besides going out... She also always lies of where she's going or why she needs a sitter. Hehe told IL she was going to work, showed up in bathing suit lmao! threy thought it was suspicious but kept SS anyway!!! She worked total maybe one and half years (that's combined) for 9 years! Usually it's work for one to two months, quit but say she's still working (to get sitters) until SS tells on her she had quit. Then takes a year off and repeats. Also making it possible to collect on her taxes.

Anyway back to the subject!! At DHs parents there are no rules, no consequences and if they actually get upset with SS he cries so badly I'm afraid he'll think its acceptable and kids will make fun of him. I mean when you see a huge 10 yr old balling like someone was killing him, omg it's not just embarrassing for him..... DHsM actually was wiping the kid as recently as last year after pottying!
Apparently BM won't do that, neither will we... Just freaky!!