Every year, every other weekend it's almost always the same thing.

DH has forgotten all the hateful ugly words that his sweet princess sd15 said to him before thanksgiving. Now it's xmas!!!

It's time pretend that your kid loves you and doesn't use you.

Latest development is that after the big blowup with sd, dh said he didn't apologize for anything. He said. I'm sure that if I read his texts that I'd find him kissing up to baby girl and telling her sorry he was about upsetting her so much.

He also got in a ugly convo text war with bm and she's not communicated with him since.
At this point, he's just chit chatting with sd. And so amazed that she's actually texting with him!! OMG!!! Can you believe it??
I'm like.. it's xmas. She wants her gifts doofus. Of course she's gonna communicate. It's the same thing every single holiday where there are gifts involved. She kisses his ass like she means it then she turns around and ignores him completely.

He told me the other night that she doesn't know what she wants for xmas. That he would have to take her shopping and get her something bc that's how it works. I explained that after the way she talked to him, why would he bother wasting his time. Just get her a gift card and let it be.

he then responded that he needed to take her bc he wouldn't hear the end of it until he did that. What a freaking joke!!!

I just wish he kissed my ass half as much as he kisses her's!! Then again I'm not a greedy little narcissistic brat. So yeh, I don't need him to stroke my ego.

I did try to explain, as you all have done, that this behavior can't be reinforced. You have to set boundaries. But he just blows me off. I seriously can't wait to get a good look at his text to see what he has really been saying to her. And not just what he's been telling me to shut me up.

If my kid talked to me the way his kid talks to him, we would not be communicating until there was an apology. But that's me. And I've had more experience as a parent.
I think was got me the most was when I asked last night if he had talked to his brother and if we knew where we were staying yet? And if he'd gotten anymore feedback from his daughter on her plans??
His response: Oh, I told her I'd let her know tomorrow sometime bc that's when I'm supposed to talk to my bro again to see if we are staying with him or if we need a hotel.

Ok, so this means he talked to all of his family and never bothered to even tell me anything. I'm always the one left hanging out and in the dark.
It just makes me want to stay home with my dogs and tell him to go jump in the river. Besides, having to watch him kiss her ass disgusts me to my core.
It's the same thing, every holiday. Every birthday. I can feel myself slowly getting to the point of just not caring. I doubt that brat will ever step foot in our house again to be honest. She's found a way not to come here since May. My hope is that she'll just not ever come here again. I'm so sick of it. But yeh, this is what I bought into. If i was smart I'd get the hell out now. It just feels like I'm always being "put in my place." and I don't like the place.