Well.. I haven't had much time to post as I'm off from work for a few days and been with SO most of it. No time to blog. Doing this one quick.. 

After he regain some brain function him and SS19 got into a text conversation for a while. We don't think he was at BMs. Some of the texts sounded like her but we are not sure. 

To sum it up he told SS19 this is it. Next time he disrespects anyone he's done and will be out. He/we don't care anymore about his excuses for his behavior, his mouth, his lack of respects for others belongings etc. He said to him how I have been done but it just took him longer because he is his kid. 

Gave him a ton of examples and he just kept playing victim (just like BM) SO flat was like I don't care. 

SO said to me he doesn't understand why he doesn't want to live with BM... I said because there has been no consequences for his behavior and there is not a chance in hell any of this would fly at BMs. Her husband would NOT allow it.  

SO has had tons of fights with SS19 his whole life. He has always been difficult since birth. I do think it's not all SOs fault because SS19 is wired just like BM. He has none of his father in him. SO knows this and I do feel bad that he doesn't have the relationship with him that he wished because of SS19s brain. I do believe SO that he is finally done with his bad behavior. 

SS19 is suppose to rent BMs house when she moves out of state hopefully sooner then she is saying.

Now on to Xmas. I was assuming this was going to be the last year BM would be around for Xmas. I made a comment to SO how I wonder (Xmas being on the weekend) if they were going to be uo at their new place... and not see the kids on Xmas... He followed with that would be kind of f'ed up. 

WELL! SD15 comes home from her monthly nail appointment and said mom and her husband won't be here for Xmas because they are flying down south to see her husband mom and stepdad or something... 

I was like OH! I asked how that made her feel.. She just said that it doesn't surprise her anymore. She said BM asked her what size clothes she wears because she supposedly was going to buy her "a few extra things" for xmas. She gives them $200 each for Xmas. 

We will see considering when she said she was going to take her shopping when she didn't go to her confirmation she only took her to our small tj maxx in town and target and basically put her an eye liner and that's it.. not a single article of clothing. 

Honeslty I'm kind of pissed because I look forward to my little time alone in the house with the dogs on Xmas. SO will be working 7-5 on Xmas and then when they go to BMs for the two hours it kind of gives me some peace. 

Looks like that ship has sailed.