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Ungrateful SD... Typical.

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Submitted by Knottygirl on Mon, 12/28/2015 - 7:42am

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So my Sd was away for Xmas. She's flat broke due to her previous lying getting her social security payments cut off by dropping out of study. She drove 2 states away with her boyfriend to spend Xmas with his family. Like 3 days worth of driving. Dh knew she was broke and didn't want her to go away with nothing, so he gave her $200 for Xmas. She would have also got some dole payments while she's away. I helped her get onto the dole.

So she gets home. Her Xmas gifts are on her bed. Just a couple things from Santa that I got. Still about $100 worth of stuff. She gets home while we are out. And she says nothing. I know they are opened because the wrapping paper was in the bin. No thankyou. Nothing. And no little token Xmas gifts brought back for dh and bios. Nothing. Ungrateful little sod. So pissed off.

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Submitted by Knottygirl on Mon, 12/28/2015 - 7:45am

Dp

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Submitted by hereiam on Mon, 12/28/2015 - 7:47am

Time to stop buying Christmas gifts for her.

We stopped spending that kind of money on my SD24 a few years ago, now we spend about $30-$40; we don't get a card from her, a thank you, nothing. So, next year we will only buy for her 2 kids.

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Submitted by Knottygirl on Mon, 12/28/2015 - 8:00am

Yeh I think that's the answer. I'm just so disappointed in her. She's broke because she spends all her money on food. She's a vegan and even though I buy food for her she goes out and buts stupid vegan pizzas and stuff that are stupidly expensive. She also could have got a nights work before she left babysitting for one of my friends offered her $50 but decided to spend time with boyfriend instead. She could have taken the nights work and used that money to get some small gift. Too selfish to think about anyone else.

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Submitted by Knottygirl on Mon, 12/28/2015 - 5:18pm

I'm in Australia. That's how the system works here. You can get the dole, called new start allowance when you are at home. Goes off parents income. Cause her mum doesn't work and dh doesnt earn much, she gets it. I'm the main earner in our house. Other benefits would take my income into account, but not this one. She was on it before but it was a study allowance. Can't get that anymore cause she's not studying.

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Submitted by sandye21 on Mon, 12/28/2015 - 10:24am

Let DH take care of her gifts - out of HIS money - not yours. I am also wondering why she is getting welfare if she is living with you. You did not mention she has kids. At 20 years old, if she is not in school, she needs to get a job and get out on her own.

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Submitted by LadyOfShalott on Thu, 12/31/2015 - 2:51am

I am having to learn with my SKids to let what gifts I give to them either be given freely, or not at all. "Freely" in the sense that I'm not going to hold on to expecting anything in return. This feels easy with the tangible "gifts"... with the intangible gifts (e.g. my time and attention), the lines are more blurry, though.