So our current problem came to my attention this weekend when he brought up that I treat my Skids different. He says I am mean to my SD4. Although I didn't realize he felt that way but I quickly came to my own defense when I told him his little angle is naughty. 4 year old usually are, but she is also very spoiled when it come to her BM. I have no problem with that but when any of the kids are bad they get into trouble and she just happens to be in more trouble then the others. My SS6 has repeatedly let us know that she does whatever she wants (hit, yell, throw fits) at her BM's without getting into trouble. And I am not backing down because she will walk all over me if given the chance. But SO's problem with me is blowing up. He hates when I even slip and say his kids, or my daughter. And with a horrid BM my family want no babysitting time with them and don't consider them as my children. I do have to admit seeing them every other weekend and having any and every bond with them demolished by their BM it's hard to hold a tight bond with them. He doesn't understand me at all and thinks I am not trying hard enough. Just feeling like the evil stepmother. Can anyone relate?