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Projecting my sadness/anger at SD14

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Submitted by MamaBecky on Thu, 11/03/2011 - 3:30pm

My dog died Tuesday night. Totally unexpected...she was four years old. I have no bio's. She was MY baby. I was and am devastated. I have always promoted my dog as our dog. Our family dog.

When my sweet baby dog died on Tuesday I called BM#2...she immediately dropped her plans and brought SD6 over. We took my dog to her fathers field where all of SD6 and families pets had been laid to rest. We were up until after 10pm dealing with all of this. She (BM#2) fed me and DH, she put gas in our vehicle, SD6 cried with me and was very loving and concerned. It was a blessing.

OT - My DH crossed a line...and I am depressed...

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Submitted by MamaBecky on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 11:33am

not looking for advice...maybe just some understanding and sympathy.

My DH has been volunteering with a small local crew that makes an online web show and also participated in a convention that they put on over the weekend. There is a girl that is also volunteering who is one of those girls that as soon as you meet her you can tell she is easy/slutty and drama. I felt this right away....but I try not to be judgmental and give everyone a chance.

My first weekend flying solo....

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Submitted by MamaBecky on Thu, 10/20/2011 - 8:03pm

I am going to be alone with the girls primarily this weekend. My DH is involved in the production of a convention that is taking place this weekend so he will be at that from 9am into the night hours on F, S, and then done Sunday late afternoon. So he will see the girls if they are still up at night after the convention, and he will see them on Saturday when we attend the convention....but we will be there as guests and he will be there working so he will be busy.

Got SD14's grades today....horrible! :(

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Submitted by MamaBecky on Thu, 10/20/2011 - 7:59pm

She has two B's, a C, and two F's. I'm really disappointed. She always did well in school until her mom divorced her DH for the 2nd time, moved her to her Gma's house and stopped parenting her. (BM's XDH was the primary disciplinarian) She has pretty much had free reign for the last two years and it is so apparent. Now being a freshmen is when she really needs to step up. I thought she got that. Apparently not. Bummer.

SM #2

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Submitted by MamaBecky on Tue, 10/18/2011 - 3:28pm

Do any of you deal with being your step child's second SM? (or 3r, or 4th...) Smile

I know I really struggled with this when I entered the picture.

DH began his relationship with his daughter my SD14 when she was 5. BM#1 brought her to meet him and he began regular weekend parenting. He lived with BM#2 at the time and BM#2 acted in a step mom capacity for 1.5 years while DH and her were still together.

Being NCP sucks

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Submitted by MamaBecky on Thu, 10/13/2011 - 1:05pm

Yeah you know...but it's still frustrating. We dont get any information. BM sits home on the couch and the papers come to her...she can sit there and smoke and read the little fliers and then throw them out never giving them a second thought...and never thinking maybe she could let DH or I know. I have to be diligent and check websites regularly, call and make appointments for DH, and stay on top of it....parenting events get to just happen to her.

Kinda OT - Jumping

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Submitted by MamaBecky on Tue, 10/11/2011 - 10:31am

So that's the thing now? Jumping each other? Little posse's of snot nosed brats ganging up on other girls and jumping them? What the hell. I remember being mildly bullied in HS...told by a bf's sister that she was going to jump me and cut my beautiful hair off (jealous! lol) but I knew she was all loud talk and no action...my niece was jumped for no reason last week, my oldest SD has been threatened multiple times...and I see it on the news all of the time. You think...where are the parents...but we all know.

Update - CPS called to BM of SD6's house

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Submitted by MamaBecky on Wed, 09/21/2011 - 9:46am

Well CPS called DH yesterday and they really must not be concerned at all. It was very much dotting I's and crossing T's. They asked him if he had any concern for SD being in the care of BM. He said "I dont have any concern about BM". They said thank you and hung up. Obviously they would have asked a follow up question or a probing question or two if they really wanted any information.

Since DH got his call I'm guessing SD also got her school visit. Now I'm just waiting to hear how that went.

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