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Submitted by LittlePanda on Wed, 08/20/2014 - 9:23pm

My husband communicates with SD's grandmother and has for the last four years. He literally has not spoken to the mother of the child in two years except for mediation. The mother has visitation, and at one point, had 50% custody, yet, even in this time, the grandmother is the care provider for SD and the sole person that my husband has talked to about anything SD related. The mother lives with the grandmother. The mother has been in and out of jail over the last four years.

1 more SD free week.

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Submitted by LittlePanda on Sun, 08/03/2014 - 8:49pm

1 more week. And then she's back. I am already starting to feel the dread in the pit of my stomach. Not only that she will be back, but that she will be a mini BM to the freaking MAX after spending all summer with her. We saw her briefly a couple of weeks ago and it was terrible. She talks like a ditzy teenager(she's in grade 3), uneducated, and is a TOTAL CONSTANT attention seeker. Why does it have to end?

I know that so many of you ladies know exactly this feeling. I don't have the energy for her. To be around her, to give her my fake attention, but I will.

So annoying!!

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Submitted by LittlePanda on Thu, 05/15/2014 - 5:19pm

SD is CONSTANTLY trying to listen in on adult conversations..it's so frustrating and I hate talking to my husband when I can see her obviously listening in. I pointed it out today when he was talking about something at work and he said, "she can stand there!" Ummm..I don't care where the hell she stands, I am just sick of her fucking eavesdropping all the time. She literally takes 10 minutes to get a cup of water because she is trying to listen in on whatever we are talking about. She already tries to act way older than she is.

The vicious cycle

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Submitted by LittlePanda on Mon, 04/07/2014 - 12:38pm

This can be a weekly event or even a daily one...

I wake up feeling angry and resentful of my step situation.

I might take it out on my husband, or I might not. I might be mean.

I feel guilty for saying or feeling certain things.

I apologize or just sit there feeling guilty.

I go through the rest of the day, accepting my situation in life.

I fall asleep, placated.

I wake up the next day and the whole thing repeats.

What do I do?

False praise?

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Submitted by LittlePanda on Tue, 03/25/2014 - 4:34pm

Isn't it messed up to tell a child that they are 'so good' at something if they are not? Since when have we been treating all children equally??? Ignoring the talented and encouraging the dunces so that all kids are created equal?? I can't believe it sometimes...

Over my husband

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Submitted by LittlePanda on Sat, 02/08/2014 - 2:11pm

He annoys the shit out of me.

His almost NINE year old daughter asked where a toy was of her's and he said, "It's not charged..and that's my job."

I said, "UHHH who's job is it to charge their own toys?" He kept saying over and over it was HIS job (in front of her.)

Ok, really? She's almost 9 and can't charge her own things?

More annoyingly, yet again, there is a separation between DADDY AND HIS WITTLE BABY and me. I just know the little brat was absolutely GLOWING with her DADDY saying over and over how it was HIS job to plug her fucking toys in.

I really hate it when he says, "Don't let it get to you."

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Submitted by LittlePanda on Wed, 11/13/2013 - 7:48am

Whether it's about SD or BM and usually both at the same time, he always says, "you have to try to just ignore it." Really?

I live in a house with a child that I cannot stand. I raise 2 babies with my husband in that house..how can I ignore a PERSON who LIVES with us and causes constant stress?

I mean..I can't just pretend like SD doesn't exist without it fucking up the rest of the family in one way or another.

How do I just IGNORE my 8yr old SD.

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