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Submitted by Lifer33 on Sat, 02/25/2023 - 5:01pm

So a mutual acquaintance just couldn't wait to tell me (eyeroll) that bm has been proposed to a few days ago whilst on their holiday. I am genuinely ecstatic! Not for her though obviously:) for US. Dh , his parents, and myself. We all hated that she retained their family name, after all she put him through in the past. And I personally hated that I've had to share a surname with that woman the last 5 years. I think that feeling amped up once i had ny daughter and she has to share her surname, weirdly Now she's finally going to be 'gone' and someone else's problem by name on paper, good luck to him! 

I had a good chuckle about everything... I was once asked if I was related to bm because of our shared name. This was By a girl that had the misfortune to share bridesmaid duties with bm. I heard all about how bm was bridesmaidzilla and made their mutual friends wedding all about herself. Yikes definitely best of luck to her new husband... and hopefully such an awkward question will never come up for us again!

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Submitted by Survivingstephell on Sat, 02/25/2023 - 5:08pm

I hope she changes her name but some don't. I hope she's not one of those.  They use the excuse " matching the skids".  As if in 2023 that matters.  

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Sun, 02/26/2023 - 4:05am

"I need to keep the name so I won't confuse the skids" (TM) argument well after she was engaged then married to StepDaddyBigBucks and referred to herself on all correspondence as "Mrs. Chef." 

It wasn't probably until a year later that she stopped all reference to Chef's surname and now has her maiden name-SDBB's name listed on all her social media. 

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Submitted by hereiam on Sun, 02/26/2023 - 8:16am

BM over here has had so many name changes, I can't keep track. Going on her 6th divorce.

Regardless, I have kept my maiden name, so...

I hope the BM in your situation changes hers.

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Submitted by Lifer33 on Sun, 02/26/2023 - 2:22pm

Fb quote that she 'can't wait to be Mrs (piggy)'

 

 

 

Fairly confident she'll take his name, as he runs a well known business in their town with his family name above the door. She has revelled in showing off about and inserting herself into that, as if it makes her royalty since day dot...show off Central.

The only rub might come if ss wants to double barrel or change his name when he's legally old enough. That did run through my mind, and it would deeply hurt dh

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Sun, 02/26/2023 - 3:15pm

Be warned: BM may get divorced and change it back.

ET was Mrs. XH#2 for longer than she was Mrs. DH. Yet, when her and XH#2 got divorced, she changed her last name back to Mrs. DH. The kicker of it all? When she posted the change on FB, my MIL literally commented "welcome back to the family name". Note: my FIL DIVORCED my MIL because my MIL was cheating on him, so it's not even her family name either!

But I'm not sure what I expected from someone whose mother (ET Sr.) calls herself a widow even though her XH divorced her 10+ years before he died. Crazy gonna crazy.

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Submitted by Lifer33 on Mon, 02/27/2023 - 3:40am

They do sound bonkers I don't know how you cope with that!

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Submitted by Rags on Sun, 02/26/2023 - 3:56pm

shared a name.

DW was a single teen mom. She never had the name associated with the SpermClan's shallow and polluted gene pool.

My son asked me to adopt him when he was 22yo. I am the only day he has his first memories of.  His mom and I met and started dating when SS was 15mos old. We married the week before he turned 2yo.  He had COd visitation with the SpermClan starting just after his 2nd B-day. We never denied that relationship.

They plied so much PAS, manipulation and so many lies that as he grew up he learned how toxic they were and how much of a lost cause that side of his very large multibranched blended family is.

The day he asked for me to adopt him, followed by the day the Judge signed the adoption order (4 days later) are two of the proudest days of my life.

For the first time, my bride and her/our son had the same family name. From before we married SS was a key part of my family. Sinc the day we married, he has been my parent's eldest grand child.  He wears our family name on his USAF uniform. That tears me up with pride every time I see it.

I understand the importance of a  quality family name. Whether it is a sitaution where a POS is continuing to pollute it, or an amazing young man is pursuing it.  In the case of our family name, my bride and our son make it that much better.