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It never seems to be a problem with discipline etc when the child is of both parents. When it comes to the step though, the boundaries are unclear. I remember my husband telling me that his word was final with his kids. That made me feel totally powerless in my own home. It also made me feel like I married someone other than who I met at the alter. Maybe because things have gone sooo badly with his kids here in this home, and maybe because we don't really see them anymore, I don't have as many issues and have detached into la la land.

Please help me.

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As I write, my DH is in counseling with his ex and their two kids. The daughter wants a modification to sever her responsibilities for visitation with her dad, and his son, is so mixed up, he's afraid to do anything without his sisters approval. I feel so responsible.

Got a new plan

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Deep breath. Today, my husband is going to see the skids counselor (his kids) because the situation is soooo out of hand. I am looking forward to hearing how it goes, kinda like a soap opera I'm addicted to. However, I don't want to go or be a part of what the counselor has to say.

I went away for the weekend and our home fell apart

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I'm so glad I wasn't home. Im sure it is better this way. I left my daughter with my husband on his weekend with his two kids. Background. SKids pretty hostile towards my 2 year old, their half sister. Apparently they were being rude to her. She fell down the stairs and they wouldn't help her. She went to them with her arms out and they ignored her. My husband decided that until they treated "all" people, including their little sister, with kindness and respect, they would lose priviledges.

Hello Step Gals.

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Hi, I've been feeling, well, not so great for awhile. I'm wondering if it is hormonal. I've had two miscarriages in the last 6 months. The last one was in August and I was 12 weeks along. I'm gaining a lot of weight and I think I might be depressed. Not sure really. I haven't talked about the losses too much except once in awhile as a point of reference in time. I'm finding that I am not very strong these days and I cry easily. Do any of you have experience with miscarriages and how it affects you long term, emotionally and physically.

The greatest joy in life is making someone else feel good

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Do you think if we tried to make everyone feel good about themselves, rather than feel the insults, and alienation ourselves, would we change the feelings of our step kids and husbands.

What do you guys feel about that? Please think about it and let me know. I feel it is important to ask questions, right or wrong.

Thanks.

I must be on a rollercoaster

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Hello. Thanks for listening to me and for all your comments. Really, this is like an interactive diary and I love it. I just wanted to share that things got better so far. A glass of wine and an hour interacting on this site helped. I tried to change my attitude and be open to the step-kids, communicating with them on their level. I addressed the sharing of a bedroom in our new house issue and my step daughter was actually okay with it. Probably because she would have a loft above the shared bedroom which is big enough to fit a double/queen bed and a desk/chair.

Well they're here!!!

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I was sure I wouldn't be on this site this weekend. I had all kinds of plans to enjoy my step kids and I thought we'd be really busy. We'll now I'm in tears, we still have more than half of the weekend left and I want out of this life. It is impossible. We watch a lot of Cinderella because my daughter loves it. Now I think I see a parallel. My step kids treat her like the ugly step daughter, this horrible thing, Cindreeellla.

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