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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Tue, 01/22/2019 - 12:05pm

While in SS14 paitent portal I was trying to update DH's contact info since he was still not listed for anything. In doing so I apparently started a sh!+ storm. I guess one of the phone numbers I changed was actually one of SS's primary contact numbers that didn't have to do with DH. Completely honest mistake. Nothing intentional. An email was sent out asking for clairification to DH and BM.

BM apparently told SS that DH now had access to his medical records to SS sent out a text stating that he "was done" with DH again and that he didn't want him to have access. 

I am shaking I am so angry

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 01/17/2019 - 6:53am

DH finally got the log in for the paitent portal to one of the many specialist hospitals that BM takes SS14 to.

1st record I pull up- "Father has substance abuse issues" ---- WHAT IN THE ABSOLUTE F**K?!?!?!?! 

I have already emailed the hospital social worker with that along with other false information that was in his chart and our lawyer. I am livid. I don't even know what to do at this point. My head is spinning. There is now documentation in SS's records that his father, my wonderful husband, has substance abuse issues. 

I called SS14 a little Sh!+ to DH and other musings from the weekend

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 01/14/2019 - 8:01am

Let me start by stating that DH and I enjoy breweries. That is one of the things that we will do as date nights- go check out a local mircrobrewery or festival. We aren't alcoholics and we don't NEED to drink. However, we both enjoy beer. We never drink more than 1-2 with children at home and we don't take the kids to breweries or festivals. This is something we do as a couple.

Just Angry Today

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 01/10/2019 - 7:45am

I really don't need advice or anything today... I am just angry.

I am angry that BM is getting away with her behavior.

I am angry that GAL isn't responding to DH.

I am angry that SS is being a little shit to not only us but to his grandma.

I am angry that I can't even bring myself to hit "Purchase" on a plane ticket when it was finally below $400 (vs. the $883 it had been) because I am afraid it is a loss.

I am angry that no matter what we do SS is lost.

I am angry that if we do nothing I will feel like a failure.

You can't make this stuff up....

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Fri, 01/04/2019 - 11:31am

We found out a couple of weeks ago that SS14 was being seen by a therapist - Great, that kid needs help. We wanted to know why though- we figured this was BM trying to come up with things for court and using a therapist to get there.

Turns out he was referred by the cardiologist- WHO gave him his POTS diagnosis based on a history with EDS. HOWEVER as we have proven by 2 different specialist (one being genetics) SS does not have EDS. He was sent to the counselor to deal with depression since between POTS and EDS he would be limited in life. Yep... Ladies and Gentlemen... BM.

False abuse claims- spin off from Lndsy747's forum on PAS

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Fri, 12/28/2018 - 11:49am

DH and I both made final payments on our Cruise. Today was the deadline day. We waited to see if we got anything from the GAL or from BM's attorney or anything stating we couldn't take him. The GAL told us that as of right now the current order stands- He has not received payment from BM nor spoken to either her or SS at this time. The GAL also made both attorney's (ours who already knows everything and BM's) about this trip and the deadlines and that after the deadline no changes could be made. *** This is not 100% true. We can still do a name change up until the day before.

SS18's BM called yesterday (Sorry to blog hog- Christmas always has drama)

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Wed, 12/26/2018 - 11:39am

So the last time I heard from BM1 was probably 3+ months ago. She FB messaged me and wanted SS's #. I told her I would let DH know that she wanted it and it wasn't my place to do more than that. She got nasty, I ignored. 

StepGBM let me know that I should keep her out of his life. GBM has custody of BM's younger 4 kids. The middle 2 live with their dad and BM doesn't even have supervised visits. SS has lived with DH full time since SS was less than 1 and BM has only had supervised visits once a month since he was 2. She rarely has even done those. 

Well at least SS14 acknowledged DH for Christmas

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Wed, 12/26/2018 - 6:02am

Sure... It was a text that said "it isn't my mom's fault I haven't answered your calls or texted you today" - then nothing else... But Hey! At least we got that!

All DH did was after trying for several hours to reach SS, he texted BM and said "Would you please have SS call me today for Christmas?" So... Yeah... we were super hostile towards her. 

GAL convo update

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Fri, 12/14/2018 - 3:07pm

DH had his talk, about an hour and half talk! Good news is the GAL agrees something is going on and he promised to talk to SS and make his recommendation for spring break before our deposit is due! DH said he felt really good about it all. He told DH that short of abuse there is no reason for SS to not come with us. He also said abuse would need to be proven especially with all the documentation we provided about BM!

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