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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Fri, 04/19/2019 - 7:08am

"A step parent doesn't just marry a spouse: They marry their spouses entire situation.

They have to find a balance between supporting and defending with out over stepping visiblie and invisble boundaries."

 

Got the court date!

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Wed, 04/17/2019 - 9:57am

I was in tears yesterday. I called our lawyer to find out if they had the date. He was out of the office but his secretary told me that we did get it, it was the day before my kids leave for California for 9 weeks and 2 days after DH reports to his new command. I didn't even know what to do, so I sat at my desk and cried for a little while trying to figure out how to make it all work- Well, it won't. 

 

Personal Responsibility

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Sun, 03/31/2019 - 9:29am

I really don't post much about SSstb19.  He lives with us full time. DH has had custody since he was under 1 yr old. BM isn't involved at all (currently in jail and went on to have 7 other kids, custody of none). We believe that BM's teenage partying (17 when she had him) along with her own mental issues, is the cause of SS's psychiatric issues. Autism (mid rang functioning), ADHD, Major Anxiety Disorder are the big ones. 

Back to the real world

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 03/25/2019 - 9:46am

We got back in town Saturday after the most AMAZING trip! We posted about 1,000 pictures. Had the best time.

I AM SOOOO PROUD OF DH! He did not wallow in the fact that SS was not there. He did not even mention it but one or 2 times and the comments were "SS is really going to regret not seeing this one day". He/ We/ The other 3 had a blast!  Totally lived in the moment, laughed, loved, and experienced everything we could. 

Final Cruise Saga Update

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Sat, 03/16/2019 - 8:26am

Welp, Ss14 did not get on the plane to meet us in Florida. I know, I know... DH and I were as shocked as you are right now!

Mr. Lawyer talked to the GAL yesterday and confirmed that if SS didn't get the plane he was re-writting his recommendation and would testify for us the a flip in custody is imperative.

Mr. Lawyer is filing all the paperwork Monday while we are on the cruise. Not sure how I feel about it all... but I can deal with those feelings later. 

The Spring Break Saga

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 03/14/2019 - 5:55am

Y'all get the play by play for the next few days. It really sucks that no one in my life really understands what we are going through. I have several divorced friends but they are all "normal". There isn't constant fighting or withholding of children, no drama every single day it seems... I really am so grateful for this site and being able to come here, vent, cry, complain without too much judgement. 

Doctors Notes from EDS appointment

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 03/11/2019 - 12:09pm

The notes from SS14's "EDS Diagnosis" were up on the patient portal. Sure enough so much of the things were lies.

- SS's 1/2 brother having EDS and Juvenile Arthritis (He does not have either of those, his SM and Dad are pissed right now, I sent them a screenshot of what was written)

- SS is SOOO tired and lethargic yet he goes to bed 8 pm (LIE. Just going to call that for BS. When he was still text DH it would be at 11 pm his time and whenever he is with us, he won’t go to bed until after 2 am)

BM did it... she got the diagnosis

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 03/07/2019 - 3:25pm

DH was on the phone. He tried to call out her lies on family history. Her lying about SS having 2 dislocations. Her coaching SS the whole time! Doctor would say "how does that feel?" Before SS could even answer "That's how you say it hurts, right?" SS didn't even answer... we assume he just nodded. It was surreal listening to the whole thing. I am still shaking.

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