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9 days until SS get's here... BM is making FB posts

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 06/01/2020 - 8:38am

SS is supposed to be here in 9 days. Plane tickets were purchased 3 months ago. 

This is all per the CO, of course. For those that aren't familiar with my story- BM has severly alientated SS15. He stopped coming to our state for visits for 2 years. It was a lot of court, contempt and $$. BM was told that if she was found guilty of contempt again she would spend 30 days in jail and owe us financially for everything we have asked for. We are talking about 25K and rising. 

College paid by dad

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Wed, 05/27/2020 - 8:39pm

Who here has college expenses in your spouses divorce/CO?

How enforceable is that in all reality? 

DH has it in his that he is responsible for "up to 1/2 of college" for SS15. If he doesn't show this summer we are just done. We will have the current contempt hearing by the end of summer and we might add not showing up for that visit for financial compensation but that is it. 

I'm angry

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Tue, 05/26/2020 - 8:12am

SS15 will be here in 15 days (maybe if he shows up). My anxiety is through the roof. I am not sure why exactly, like I can't put my finger on it. When I think about SS15 I get angry. 

I still WANT to be supportive of DH. I still WANT to want to make his visit fun, like I usually did in the past. I still WANT to have a good relationship with him. But I am angry. 

Maybe I need to try and get in with a counselor before he get's out here and vent all of my anger and frustrations with him out so that I can fake it while he is here.  

I hate that I am feeling like this. 

The hurt in my husband's eyes...

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 05/18/2020 - 5:53am

SS is 15. He will be 16 at the end of October. He has been working to save up for a car. He is supposed to come out here to our state for his summer visit in 3 weeks. BM tried to stop the visit over rec league baseball, but our CO clearly stated that father's summer visit is a priority over other activities. Well, BM wasn't budging, we were prepared to add a 5 th contempt charge to the 4 we already have waiting on a trial date. 

Happy Birthday to MEEEE!!

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Wed, 04/29/2020 - 8:50am

I am cracking up because BM is being served today! 

We spend DH's birthday in court last month for contempt and today she is being served for contempt again! Man, we know how to celebrate! 

All direct violoations of the CO

- Showing SS corespondence between parents

- Refusing weekly scheduled facetime calls

- Refusal to communicate in a timely manner

** Not in CO but ordered in court**

- Turn over 2018 and 2019 tax returns within 10 days (Court was March 13th). 

 

Adult Guardianships

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Fri, 04/24/2020 - 11:35am

Many of you know my adult SS20 who lives with us full time is/has Autistic, Bi-Polar, GAD, ADHD. We tried to get disability for him when he turned 18 and were rejected even though his school, psychologist and job coach all told us they recommended it when they were questioned. We filed for an appeal, which was "lost" and DH and I just didn't follow back up like we should have because of everything going on with SS15. 

OT- My house broken into (not really)

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Tue, 04/21/2020 - 12:53pm

DD12 calls me at work whispering-

DD: Mom... I think someone is in the house.

Me: What are you talking about?

DD: Mom, I am really scared. Someone broke in

Me: (Grabbing my purse and pulling up my home camera app) What is happening right now? Where is SS, where is BS?

DD: I don't know! Mom they are upstairs. They are outside my door

Me: (Running out of my office, I live a mile away) Ok, keep talking to me, what is happening

DD: Mom... I think they are vacuuming

DH and I had a serious talk about SS

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Fri, 04/17/2020 - 7:18am

Due to what BM pulled with SS our lawyer is going to file another contempt charge. I was talking to my husband about some of my fears last night. The judge was very strong in speaking to BM and SS in court last month. He stated very clearly that if BM didn't follow the CO that she was going to spend 30 days in jail and that there may be a custody switch. He said that her behavior was inexcusable. He told SS he better get on the plane unless he wants his mom in jail (he said that because it is obvious how protective SS is of her).

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