DH responded to BM's mom having "cancer" (which she has when he was here in March)and summer rec baseball :

If you are truly concerned about the chances of Covid-19 exposure I would highly discourage any sort of organized sport even if stay at home orders are lifted. I would also argue that our sons current job working at a local grocery store should stop immediately as both of those are far from social distancing. If you are as concerned as you say about the possibility of our son exposing his grand mother to covid-19 SS is welcome to stay here in VA and attend school here next year to minimize any chance of exposure of covid-19 or any other possible disease to your mother. 

 

Have you stopped volunteering at a “health clinic” in Oklahoma? I only ask as that would expose you non social distancing activities. Likewise has your daughter stopped doing phlebotomy activities at ______ Hospital  Again just asking about these non social distancing activities, as they tend to increase your chances of getting Covid-19 among other things. What about your future husband is he still working? Or the members of his family that could expose him or you to the virus? 

 

Currently Kansas’s stay at home order only goes through April 19th many other states have gone to as far out as June but even Virginia’s stay at home order ends before the dates I have proposed. (the 10th of June through the 8th of July) Since you are expressing these dates do not work for you for a reason like a summer recreational sport that our son should have aged out of, I want to know the alternate dates you would propose for summer visitation. Additionally I will remind you that per the GAL order “ Summer visits should be scheduled in such a manner that it interferes as little as possible with SS’s summer activities. But, if the parenting time with dad overlaps the actives, Dad's time should take priority.” 

 

With that in mind what dates are you proposing for the four weeks of summer visitation I get with our son here in Virginia in the summer of 2020?

 

Just to be clear I am not saying this again to say he should not play baseball. I am however playing devils advocate here and walking down the path of “SS is playing in a league due to not being able to play during the the school year.” 

 

If you have that summer baseball schedule please pass it along in the reply to this email. However, if you do not then you do not know if that schedule even currently interferes with this visit or not. 

 

Now let’s say those “stay at home” orders get extended and this summer Recreational season moves to the right. Again our sons summer activities do not according to the GAL report get to trump time with me, his father, nor will I be allowing this summer recreational sport trump visitation time. My time is going to take precedence over summer recreational sports period if the move to the right due to covid-19.

 

Back to the point with all of of this, these “stay at home” orders are supposed to be lifted before any date I have proposed for visitation. Therefore there is no reason we cannot schedule travel that is two to three months from now. 

 

I have had such limited time with our son over the past three years, maybe if we had over the last three years had regular visitation and contact I would be more willing to take your views and concerns into consideration but alas this is where we are. 

 

You want me to compromise give me the dates that work for you. Reply to this email with alternative dates that work for you. While you are replying with those dates please include the information I am again requesting below;

 

You still haven’t provided me with information on who our sons doctor is. 

 

Nor have you responded to me about why we could not communicate on Easter and why I was unable to talk with our son on Sunday. 

 

I need a reply with dates by 1800 6pm central standard time or I will go ahead and purchase plane tickets for the dates of 10 June through 8 July. 

BM never responded but SS sure did. Even though BM was just admonished in court and told to make sure that all communication between BM and DH are private and not for SS to see. 

SS told him F-you. You were never my dad. I hate you. I am never coming out there. How dare you say I should live with you- Blah, blah, blah.

DH asked him where he heard that- he said he "just knew"- Right kid. You done messed up A-A-ron. 

DH told him he loved him and is looking forward to seeing him this summer. He hopes they can talk soon like actual people but he will not be disrespected like this. Good night.

Told BM that ticked were purchased for June. That all of the correspondence between him and SS and her and him were being forwarded to out lawyer and he will send to the judge because they are still in communication. That he is ever disappointed that she would use an attempt to schedule summer dates into an attack in alienation. 

We will see what happens from here but we got plane tickets under $200 and we usually spend $600+ so that is cool LOL