Well as of Tuesday the final paperwork is executed and being filed with the court. DH has SS13 and BM has SD15. No CS. No visitation for DH for SD15. It is at her discretion. Which basically means none...Total brat! SS13 has 9 more weekends with his mom and 2 weeks broken up during the summer. THen in July when he turns 14 he gets to decide if he wants to see her. If his attitude towards her is any indication, there will be very little. I have mentioned that he should try to think about dinners once a month with her. She is still his mom.

We went and had dinner in a really neat place out in the country. They are building all these homes and have a small downtown area. Horseback riding, a farm. It is a self-sustaining community. The houses were lofts and some small houses and some very neat architecture homes overlooking small lakes and woods. Everything really eclectic and very cool. Not one house looked the sames. It is 25 minutes from our house. When it is more developed, I want to sell my house and move there. My son will be off to college in less than two yeas and SS13 will be right behind. I work from home.

I leave the house for thirty minutes to see the doctor for a check up after my oral surgery last week. He gives me more prescriptions and I go the drugstore to fill them. Inside, I run into a woman that dropped DH and I like a bad habit when all the problems with BM started. She asks how DH is? Looking at me with such pity...I let loose. I should have walked away. But, I am tired of everyone thinking that we caused all this mess. My answer was he was fine now, but when SD sued us he was very upset at the time. She said she couldn't have sued you. How does that work?

Well after all this mess and DH and I barely speaking for a week, I realized that he is keeping secrets from me. I don't know what to think anymore. This changes our marriage and of course SD and BM have an impact once again on my life. He believes she is depressed and he is a fool. She blew him off for lunch on Sunday after she initiated it. I am sure it is because she can't fake depression to him like she can to her mom. She is on Facebook with her friends and new stupid pics posted daily. She is not depressed.