I need some advice,
recently hubby had a heart attack, by all accounts, he has bounced back fairly well, BUT, he WAS a very active man and I think the forced slow down has made him even more depressed,I know that in these cases it is not uncommon to feel depressed, I finally (in desperation)called his Doctor, who said that he could mow the lawn,(riding mower) just don't drive or lift heavy things. Now keep in mind that he still has not had his post operation Doctor's visit coming up on Monday,so it has not been very long since his Quadruple Bypass Surgery.I cannot count on the SK's at all, just a few days ago, we got word that the EX had another "heart episode" (all in all I think about 3 now) Hubby says it's due to her wanting to one-up him! I could care less about that, because it wasn't like his kids were fawning all over him to begin with! But it seems like he got even more depressed after that! AND on top of THAT, some "friend" just a few days before had to call him and tell him that he heard from another person that I am having an affair and have already filed for divorce! WTF????????? (NO,I am not!)To be quite honest,as far as I am concerned, if something happens to hubby before me, you can better bet the farm that I WILL NOT BE SEEKING ANOTHER HUSBAND! After all the crap EX has pulled, I just want to be left ALONE!! I have ALWAYS been honest with hubby and told him I am in this for the long haul! Soooo, what I am asking is,has anyone ever been in this situation? and how did you pull through it? I could care a rat's ass about the rumors OR the EX,(who by the way, apparently deserves everything she is getting, she has been going to different Doctor's and getting meds that each does not know about, plus, she has never stopped smoking, changed her eating habits, which are that of a pig, I kid you not) I'm just worried about Hubby. He is trying VERY HARD to quit smoking, and finally decided that maybe he does need some help with that, so the Doctor did put him on a smoking cessation med.
I need some advice here please!
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Sounds like BM can't stand
Sounds like BM can't stand the possibility of any attention from SK's being shown toward their Father. BM wants 100% of the attention for herself. She may very well have health issues, but it seems she may be exaggerating them to put the spotlight back on herself.
Take care of DH and I say SCREW the BM B****!!! And whoever it was that told your husband those lies about you!!! Is it someone that BM knows??? My suspicious mind wonders if this "friend" was put up to it.
"SOME PEOPLE WEREN'T MEANT TO HAVE CHILDREN"
H
Chantix is the drug of choice for the stop smoking program. I was on it myself and it works wonderfully well. July will be one year of no smoking for me. I went from being a heavy smoker to being a non smoker in 2 weeks. I would push that if I were you.
The other thing is treating the depression. I would be getting him on Zoloft or something similar to make him better. All the stats say that depression is a major problem for heart attack victims and the drugs they take after that sometimes makes it worse.
As far as the rumors go, I would remind your H if you were doing the things that you were accused of you certainly would not have time to take care of him. Hopefully, for your sake you will become as desensitized as I am to the rumors and BS that people start. I know the truth and I can deal with it so I don’t care what they think and it truly is like water off of a ducks back.
Thank you for your advice,
I learned a long time ago that whatever anyone says about me isn't worth a plug nickle! The ONLY one who matters AND knows the truth is the Good Lord Above.(and my hubby, he's no dummy) Yes,DH is on Lexepro AND he just started taking Chantix yesterday, so I'm "PRAYING" that will do the trick, he also takes Klonipin at bedtime (to me, that's my best friend, it SURE does help you sleep WELL) it's for anxiety. The person who called HD is his "best friend" who just wanted to "warn him" on what was being said!!! AND it was "best friend's" WIFE who called with the news about EX. WIFE and SD have gotten REALLY close lately. And I have to take HD to their daughter's Christening Sunday, as they have asked HD to be a Godparent,I am very angry at them for even bringing this up KNOWING what he just went through!!! Who needs friends like that???? They KNOW how he feels about EX, THEY WERE WITNESS TO EVERY ROTTEN THING SHE HAS EVER DONE TO HIM! HD does not care to even HEAR ANYTHING about EX! Hell, He can't stand to even watch reruns of "Roseanne" because it reminds him of EX!
Thanks again for your advice, if there is anything more that I can be doing,and haven't realized it yet, please let me know!
hangingin
Wellbutrin
is an anti depressant & is also used to stop smoking. My dad smoked 3 packs a day for 30 years & has been smoke free for over 6 years now. It's tough. He tried many different things in the past to quit, but his final motivater was his granchildren. My SIL was pregnant with his first grandchild & he decided he wanted to be alive for them.
Funny thing, he was a crappy father when I was growing up, totally uninvolved in our lives but is probably one of the best grandfathers you will find. He took my nieces to the park & on a picnic yesterday & is driving 2 hours on Saturday to babysit my little guy so I can help DH with the cubscout bike rodeo.
Sorry you have to go through all this crap, hang in there.