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Submitted by Gunner on Fri, 05/12/2017 - 1:26pm

My wife has this drowned rat she loves on. His breath smells like rancid fish, he is mean as hell and he bites people if they pick him up. He is a Chihuahua. This dog was originally black and now he is gray so he is up there in age. 10 maybe? My wife hates the vet so she does her own shots from the feed store and he has never had the need to go to the vet. I made the decision to take him in and have his teeth cleaned. They are going to have to put him under. He goes for his meet and greet with the vet next week and then they will set an appointment to clean his teeth.

Should I push counseling?

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Submitted by Gunner on Wed, 05/10/2017 - 10:07am

When I got home my wife was very sweet and had dinner ready even though it was my night to cook. She made my favorite dinner. She sent a text to my kids apologizing for her behavior and told them she would make it up to them. I really appreciated her doing that and my kids responded with it was okay and that they are fine. We made reservations to her favorite restaurant for Friday night to celebrate Mother's Day, just her and I.

Double standard

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Submitted by Gunner on Mon, 05/08/2017 - 10:21am

Friday when I got home from work my 2 step dds had once again left their stuff by the front door. I was smart this time and didn't say a word to them or my wife. When my kids got there I just sat and watched what my wife would do. Wouldn't you know it, she started yelling at me that their bags and shoes were cluttering up the living room. I pointed out that her kids stuff sat there for 2 days and she got mad when I tried to enforce the rules so I don't want to hear it. What is good for hers is good for mine. Then I told my kids to lets go and I took them to dinner and a movie.

Slept on the couch again

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Submitted by Gunner on Thu, 05/04/2017 - 10:47am

I brought home flowers and my wifes favorite candy yesterday. It was my night to cook so I made everyone dinner and sent her kids upstairs to eat and I asked her to talk to me. She had a lot to say and I made sure to 'hear' her like you guys said. She thinks my kids are snots, lazy and leave stuff every where and she is tired of it. I think they act like normal kids and to me shoes in the living room and bookbags by the door aren't a big deal but it bothers her.

A good mens board?

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Submitted by Gunner on Thu, 05/04/2017 - 10:10am

I don't want to keep harping on things here and bothering you guys. I know this is a step parent board and not a marriage board. Do any of your dhs go to a mans board or do you know of a good one where I might be able to get some marriage advice or just in general a mens board? I will stick around for my step kids issues but I don't think you guys wanna keep hearing about my marriage.

She doesn't want my kids to go

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Submitted by Gunner on Wed, 05/03/2017 - 1:39pm

After reading peoples responses, thank you! I texted my wife and asked her if more was going on and did she, yes or no want to go on vacation as a family. She texted back and said yes, her family and then listed me with her and her kids. I texted her and asked why not my kids and she said she wasn't doing this again. Some where I have missed why she doesn't want my kids to go other than she says they don't deserve to. I talked to my buddy and he gave me the number of their marriage counselor.

Fine didn't mean Fine

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Submitted by Gunner on Wed, 05/03/2017 - 10:42am

I knew good and well it didn't. If you want to know how I could tell, she didn't make me dinner. It was her night to cook and when I got home from a school meeting at 7, it was a field trip meeting, I saw there was no dinner for me. I asked her if she saved me a plate since she knew I would be late and she said no and went back to her puzzle. So I ordered pizza and sat down and told her we needed to work this out. She had lots to say and none of it praise towards me and my kids. She kept saying deserve, that my kids didn't deserve to go on vacation with us.

Tried to talk to the wife

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Submitted by Gunner on Tue, 05/02/2017 - 9:00am

I talked to her while she did dishes last night and told her I didn't want to change our vacation dates and that if she insisted we could split the vacation fund and each do our own thing with our own kids. She said and I quote, FINE. The rest of her responses were mmmmmmhhhhhhhhmmmmmm. I'm not stupid I know that fine doesn't mean fine and she ignored me the rest of the night. I think I should wait her out and see what happens but vacation is in 24 days. I won't lie, im worried.

Move vacation due to menstruation?

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Submitted by Gunner on Sun, 04/30/2017 - 3:51pm

My sd is 13 and apparently when we go on vacation next month May 26th till June 3rd sd will be on her period. Barbara told me that she wants to move our vacation since sd won't be able to participate in the water activities. The problem is that the dates we can move the vacation to will eliminate one or more of my children. My children can not move their camps and their mother has locked in her vacation time months ago. Any advice you can offer me because right now I am considering telling her to take her kids and vacation by themselves and I will take my kids and vacation.

Hi

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Submitted by Gunner on Fri, 04/28/2017 - 2:40pm

Hi My name is Gunner and my friends call me Gunny. I made one post but it didn't show up. I think the internet may have eaten it. Anyway, I am a stepdad and I overheard a woman on the elevator at work discussing this website with another woman. She was not a fan so I decided to see what the fuss was all about and I decided to join. So Hello folks.

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