First- Thank you to everyone who has posted on my previous blogs & has been wondering how things went with the b-day party.

The b-day party went well. BM was there & she didn't do anything horrible. She pretty much kept to herself and only interacted w/ the girls while we attended to the party & games. I ended up being able to go to movie, & DH asked me to go. I decided not to go. I did not feel like sitting in a 2hr movie w/ BM. The only reason I would have gone was if I did not trust DH. I trust DH, I do believe he is over their marriage & divorce. What makes me uncomfortable is that I believe BM is not over it. I know she is still emotionally attached to having her "family", but looking at everything she has done in the past I think it is only about the "family" she had, and not necessarily about wanting DH back. Does that make sense? I have those feelings once in awhile... I will not ever want my ExH back, but I do miss that "family" feeling that was once there.

I know BM manipulates DH, even though he refuses to admit it. I had a long talk with DH about this. He knows how I feel and promised to be more considerate in his dealings with BM. It has been better for the last week & a half, not only has he not been giving in to every little demand from BM, but he is also starting to stand up for himself and not "jump" every time she calls or texts with an issue. Nothing big, but I can tell BM senses something is different. She was pissed when DH questioned her about a homework assignment that BM dropped off w/ SD7. This assignment was something to be worked on over a couple of weeks, with reading & answering 23 questions. BM left it until this weekend when she dropped off SD & told DH to have it done by SUNDAY! He was pissed... & he let her know.

So, we'll see where things go from here. Hopefully things will get better between DH & I. I don't want DH & BM to be at each others throats, I just want DH to establish a more business like relationship w/ BM. I know it will be a long road, we can not change BM, but we can change the way we deal with her. We'll see.... Hoping for the best!