And it applies to both SM's and BM's. We SM's should just "let it go" and put those crazy BM's, Disney Dads and annoying skids out of our minds. BM's should "let it go" and give up the need to control everything in our houses already!

The latest on the BM "Let It Go" front is that the BM here is trying to re-interpret the new CO to fit her agenda. Without going into the whole story, the jist of it is that SD's b-day falls during the summer. DH gets 4 weeks of his choice in the summer. New CO reads that SD spends her b-day with the parent who has parenting time on this day. So, technically, DH could exercise his 4 weeks over SD's b-day every year. He chose to take it this year.

BM responds that this year is her year to have SD's b-day :? We have no idea how she arrived at that conclusion. DH responded that, after checking with his attorney, he actually has the right to exercise parenting time over SD's b-day every year, however, in the spirit of both families enjoying SD's b-day, he is willing to alternate years with BM. So she would get next year, DH the year after, so on and so forth. BM argues that we had her last year (untrue), that because BM had to work last year on SD's b-day this year should be hers (not our problem), and finally, if DH provided her with proof of out-of-town travel or a non-refundable deposit on b-day plans she would "allow" him this b-day but only on the basis that she gets the next 2 b-days. DH said he did not agree to that, would no longer discuss it and to refer any further questions on the b-day matter to his attorney.

After a week or so of silence from BM, her new attorney calls our attorney to request 2 hours of time on SD's birthday. ARRRGH! Our attorney tells him what has been going on and he was shocked. He had no idea a new CO was even in place. She totally lied to him and said that "we went to court in January but nothing happened." (Her attorney at the time of our last court date either fired her or she wasn't happy with the outcome of court and fired him, not sure). We told our attorney nope, chances of getting SD back if we give her to BM for "2 hours" is slim to none. And 2 hours - what the hell can you do in 2 hours with a 6 yr old? I told DH that it has nothing to do with BM wanting to see SD on her b-day, but everything to do with wanting to control his time with her. She just wants to spoil DH's first b-day with SD in 5 years. Control, control, control. BTW, the last b-day DH spent with SD was her 1st. BM has lied or withheld her every b-day that should have been DH's the last 4 years so that DH could not see her.

Sorry this is so long - I am trying to purge myself of this shit so I can LET IT GO!!!!