Living with SKids is like having a really bad roommate that you can't say anything to because their rich family member owns the house you are renting.

I am so sick of picking up other people's fucking trash, but if I complain to DH or chastise the kids I get my head ripped off.

But if I had birthed them, I would be able to say something to them. WTF?

Have any of you ever been here? I feel like something in me has really shifted, but I'm not sure if it is for the better or the worse! Is this a good sign, or bad?

Ok- Poll.

I have a SSstb16. He is unmotivated, does very poorly in school, and has trouble following through on responsibilities.

I say no learners permit until he can meet his primary obligations as a teen- pass school without having your hand held.

DH feels asking him to make good grades (we're talking nothing less than C's are acceptable, we're not asking for perfection)is too "pie in the sky" and he will feel like he can never achieve it, so we should let him have his learners now and then dangle the actual license as incentive.

Steppin's blog got me thinking.

My BM from hell is 43. She is overweight, not obese but at least 50 pounds too heavy. She is not overly attractive naturally. She does not wear clothing that best suits her build. She does not wear her hair in a flattering style or color. In fact, right now her hair is a very garish FAKE crayola crayon type color. SHe dresses like she's 20, and looks like a sausage that got wrapped too tight.

I've seen some sexy older women, and she AIN'T IT.