Some Sobering Stats About Fathers In The US.
If you want to learn about how fathers are discriminated against and marginalized in the US, just ask a stepmom.
Those of us who've supported partners as they fought to stay in their children's lives can tell you just how biased the Family Court system is against dads - and how lenient it is with moms.
Here's a link to a TED talk from a female attorney who specializes in father's rights. She does a great job of showing why kids need their dads, and why custody laws need reform.
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A child needs both parents in
A child needs both parents in their life. Divorce can bring out the worst in couples who hate each other. It is the child who gets the bad deal. I also think that some people should not have children. Period. Once you become a parent your life changes. Some parents are just to self centered to see that.And yes some fathers do get screwed over by the courts.
I agree with you. And I think
I agree with you. And I think part of the problem is that courts care more about money than fathers' rights. The goal is to make SOMEONE pay to support the kid(s). Even men who have been the victim of paternity fraud are required to keep paying support if the court believes the man & child have formed a bond. The man suffers, the child suffers, yet the female who perpetuated the fraud gets of scot free.
If I were a man I would
If I were a man I would definitely have my kids tested for paternity... Just in case.
BM was cheating on my DH off and on since before they were married. SD looks a lot like him but I know that before she was born he had to wonder if SD was really his. I can't imagine what that feels like for a guy.
I liked her lecture, thank
I liked her lecture, thank you for sharing that.
I wish she had shared more
I wish she had shared more about the biases of family court and family law against fathers, but I suppose that information would not appeal to as broad an audience.
StrugglingSM
Title 4d funding....kids for cash program.
Its awful...make sure you have the talk with your sons.
It's not just custody laws that need to change.. Society too.
My DS42 has had sole custody of my 2 grandsons, since the youngest was 9 months old, YGS is now 17 years old. In the past and even now, when DS42 takes either GS to a doctors appointment, or anything that needs paperwork filled out, the very first questions is "Where's the Mother?" "Shouldn't their mother being filling out the paperwork/" "Do you have proof that you have custody?" All these questions are asked with the GS's present. DS42 usually answers with very short answers and hands them his court papers. He keeps the court order with him at all times.
The next question that is always asked, after DS42 lets them know that he is the sole parent, "Well, why isn't the mother involved?" To me this last question is none of their damn business. There is nothing more thrilling for my DS42, to have to explain that his Ex is a junkie and hasn't contacted the kids for over 14 years.
So many people assume that DS42 has the boys for visitation and that he doesn't have custody. Many schools or doctors offices do not understand, in our area, over 60% of the single parents are the fathers. Each one of these sole custody fathers go through this each time they have to fill out any paperwork, especially with the schools.
God forbid, if one of the sole fathers is pulled over by the police with the kids in the car. It's an interrogation as to why the kids are with the father, where's the mother, do you have proof that you have custody. This is not a local problem, this happens nationwide.