Okay, I feel completely helpless in this situation. My fiance has not been talking to his BM or sister. My fiance's ex takes my ss to the his mom's house to visit them without his permission. The three of them show up everywhere together. Plus the ss spends the night during the week at the grandmother's home which is a court violation, but we don't know how to stop it.

My second problem is that the grandmother and aunt are causing my ss to feel confused and extreme guilt all the time because he use to live with them until my fiance and I moved in together. The grandmother takes my ss into her bed and cuddles with him, which doesn't sound so bad except the next night he won't go to sleep because he wants his dad to sleep with him. So they are introducing regressive behavior in him, except we haven't talked to them in a year and there is no way to make them stop. When we are at this games he is completely afraid of coming over to me and my fiance because he knows they are watching and he knows that even though they may not say anything, he knows when they are unhappy about him expressing any good feelings toward us.

So how do I approach this with a 6 year old who loves his grandmother and aunt dearly and wouldn't ever want to get them in trouble. How do you ask a 6 year old if they are causing him to feel guilty, will he even know what that word means. How do I make it feel like I am drilling him for information????

Any help would be greatly appreciated!