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Husband and $

For once this has nothing to do with SS or BM. It deals with husband. Both my husband and I have decent jobs. I am a school teacher so I get paid on the first of the month. The majority of our bills come out the first of the month so my check is usually gone but the 5th of every month. Husband get paid weekly. Since it is now the middle of the month I have just informed him that all that the rest of the month's bills are paid except his truck payment and we have only a certain amount in checking for the rest of the month.

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Boy Scout family cookout/campout is this Friday. I wrote earlier stating DH is on second shift and cannot take him. It is technically BM’s week. BM never really gave a clear answer if she was going to take son herself. DH called her up and suggested that maybe son can go with another father and she was all for it. Last night I made all arrangements with good friends of ours. DH called her and she was fine with everything. Friends would pick him up, drive 40 minutes to campsite; he could stay in their tent, and bring home early Sat. morning.

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this happen to other SM

We have SS every other week. There is no sole custody...it is completely 50/50. SS came home yesterday from school with a gift he made at school for mother's day. It was cute (for a 1st grader) little clay pot with daisies in it they planted at school. They had to make a card and say thanks to Mom for everything she does. His card was completely directed toward his mother and that is fine. When he brought the bag in I asked him if that was a gift for his mother. (I had no hard feelings) He immediately said he made it for both.

BM $ reimbursements

For the past two years BM has not really reimbursed DH or myself for any sporting equipment bought for SS’s activities. Two years ago BM insisted that she go out and buy SS a baseball glove and that was the glove to use “at her house”. So whatever week it was SS son used glove from hat house at the gems. BM did not buy him any cleats so he had cleats from our house. It got to the point that we would bring the shoes and he would change into them before the game. Never once did BM offer to p0ay half.

Dilemma

SS is 6 and in his first year of boy scouts. BM agreed that this is a father/son activity and has allowed DH to take son to all activities regardless of whose week it fell on. (We have 50/50 care alternating every other week) The final activity is next Friday, which falls on her week. It is a “family campout/cookout” and the boys are getting the rest of their patches.

Me, BM, and Counselor????

I'll try and make this short and to the point. Considering it is about BM you all know we can start novels. Before X-mas DH and I decided to put his son in counseling. Son is 50/50 between BM and us. Before appt. DH calls BM and asked if she had any concerns since there was a question sheet to be filled out prior to first session. She claimed no, she just wanted to make sure he was adjusting to divorce. At the first meeting all three of us sat with counselor (son was in play room) and DH and I started stating our concerns.

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DH is hypocrite

Two days ago on the way to SS counselors appt. DH asked 6 year old SS if he still crawls in bed with BM. SS couldn't answer, he clammed up and wouldn't answer. DH kept at him saying he would ask his mother and of course then SS admitted that yes he still does. Something along the lines as he does before he goes to bed or watches TV and then she puts him in his bed. Really didn't get a straight answer. At counselor DH was rather upset and told counselor this is still going on.

SS comes back with $

On Sundays when SS comes back to us for the week he always has money on him. He is only 6. I guess BM and him go out to lunch with other relatives and whatever the change is BM allows him to keep it. This happens almost every week. I am the one who does the wash in the house. AND the rule is that if I find money in the machine it is mine. I can't always remember to check pockets of his clothes but when I do I put the money is a zip lock baggy that goes back on Sunday when he goes back to her.

BM blew up

It is unfortunate that when SS is with mom for her weeks SS misses out on functions. DH and I have always been honest that life still goes oat our home when he is with Mom. When SS came back to us for our week SS asked Dad when they are baking the cake for the Boy Scouts. DH had to tell SS that it was last weekend when you were with Mom. "Sorry Bud", he said "but that was your Mom's week." Later in the week it came out about a wrestling tournament that Dad went to with some other Dad's and their sons. SS wanted to know why he didn't get to go.

Is this Mean???

SS is 6 and while he is at our house he has numerous friends to play with . DH and I encourage him to be outside or around other kids. We plan play dates and if we go or do anything we always try and have a friend come along. (SS is with us a full week the with BM a full week) If school is out early friends are always around or on no school days we either have him at friends or with friends. I teach school so I am off summers.

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