Is this normal?
My husband always takes his ex's new son with her current husband every holiday, every vacation... this is not his son..he has a biological son with her which I have no problem with him coming over, its just that why do we need extra children when we already have 6 between us ( I have 3 from previous marriage and a new baby with him) Does this seem strange? I wouldn'y mind it ocassionally but my schedule is so full already.I work full time go to school full time and we have a new baby. Is it fair to me to watch her children (he is at work when they come)when I finally get a day off to be with my own kids??? Also every f-ing christmas he goes over to thier house and me and my kids aren't invited...y don't they do it seperate...they go have christmas for the kids..particularly for her baby.. WTF?? I am in his life now..Is that fair to me? Sorry if this sounds selfish. Am I being too overly sensitive?
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No I don't think your being
No I don't think your being overly sensitive not one bit I'd put a hell no down on the holiday situation and be blunt if you don't go he doesn't go it's doing no one any favors. As for the kids that is his ex's and not his wtf and why is her hubby allowing this? Sounds like the ex is running the show hers and yours and I'd be very very blunt that her kid is NOT your and his responsibility and I'd tell her that as well. I'd be particularly intersested to hear what her hubby thought maybe you should invite him over for xmas with you and your kids be just about as weird as the current situation. Ask your DH who's the priority?
It is weird his ex allows it
It is weird his ex allows it too! My son will not step foot in the ex womb donors house!
Hell no
Hell no
He goes over there for
He goes over there for Christmas with her, her new husband and the kids and you are not invited - what's that. He brings her son by her new husband over on his weekend with his bio son, I assume her new husband allows that so as they get time alone, nice for them. Not so nice for you. If he continues this arrangement then he damn well needs to be home to watch them. It is not your job to mind his child on visitation weekends he is supposed to be there to do that, but too expect that and that you mind the new child by the new husband of the ex is dumfounding. The three of them are taking you for a fool here.
You should not be used as an unpaid babysitter for his ex and her new husband, yor husband should not allow you to be made a fool of like that. You should not be alone at Christmas with 4 kids while he goes to visit the ex and her new husband, don't know what is wrong with her new husband he seems odd for allowing this arrangement, still maybe that is a trade off for getting you to mind the kid while he has a weekend free.
As I said all three of them are taking you for a fool and taking complete advantage of you. Put an end to it now. Remember though, the fault lies with your husband so don't lay blame on the ex and take it out on her, blame your husband he is the one who is supposed to look after you and have your best interests at heart, and he is the one who is giving you the unpaid babysitting job for his ex and her new husbands child while he goes off to work. He is the one who is leaving you at Christmas WTF.
Soooo...... you're good
Soooo...... you're good enough to watch their kid but you're not good enough to join in on the holiday? Sounds like you're being used by everyone in this situation.
Why is the new husband ok
Why is the new husband ok with all of this???
Are you sure the new husband is the kid's father? Something isn't right.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not
Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying you should want to be included in their (her) Christmas if you don't want to be. I'm just asking what it is you are getting out of all this.