I am a 25 yr old stepmom. My bf and I are not married. We have been together for 5 years. He has full custody of his 7 yr old daughter and 14 yr old son. His daughter isnt that bad. She actually enjoys me being in her life, but his son hates me. Their mother has been absent in their lives since about a year before i came into the picture. They had no structure, no disipline, or even their own rooms. I have bought them school clothes, made holidays such as christmas possible for them, and even did things for their birthdays when niether one of their parents did. My stepson completly disreguards me and disrespects me. He wont even turn around to acknowledge me when i speak to him. I literally have to tell his dad to tell him to do something in order for it to get done and even then he doesnt do it. He has said he doesnt respect me or his dad. Im to the point where i dont want to do anything for him AT ALL!!! Why should iwash his clothes, cook his meals, provide his needs and basically be disrepected all the way around the board. His mother is living her life not thinking about his needs why should I have to? I feel guilty because i am not that type of person i would help anyone in need but i feel as if i am being taken advantage of. He has no responsiblity in the household, and basically come and goes as he pleases. Im stuck in my room because he has taken over my living room. I cant have company over because he is so disrepectful he wont even speak to the elders in my family. Im so tired of his face i want to scream. He walks around huffing and puffing about everything and NEVER smiles. My bf and I moved in with each other last Febuary. I provided each child with their own customized room and beds (which they never had), moved them to a beautiful house in a great neighborhood from a house with drug dealers all around and bed bugs infestin the house, and i get no thanks. My bf is so hands off and it drives me crazy. He thinks because the kids are in his presence that is enough. Im tired of being taken for granted. I dont have to be here. I dont have any kids and i can do bad by myself. He says he will talk to him which is never effective. Not to metion my stepson is a creep. I kept catching him sleeping in his little sisters bed and kept telling him he need to get out of her room, and her bed is not bih enough for him. Then i ask her why she keep allowing him to sleep in her room after i said not to and she told me the he touched her butt and said that he wishes he could have sex with her. I tell her to tell her dad and he said i probably put it in her head!!!!! As much as i cant stand the boy i would NEVER let him know it or try to turn his sister on him. And then my bf basically accused her of lying which pissed me off. I told her i believe her. When.her brother was confronted he began to cry and say that he mustve said it in his sleep. What type of s@%% is that!!! Im honestly to my wits end and i dont think my relationship.is going to last. Im tired of being more of a parent than both of the parent, im tired of no living comfortably in my own home. Im tired of my bf being so hands off. Ive been living on my own since 15 yr old so i know life isnt easy but my bf is 10 yrs older than me and i feel like he should know more and do more than he is. Im to the point where i am not going to do anything for this ungrateful child. Only doing Christmas for his sister and call it a day. Im tired and if things dont change by Febuary then i am going to get my own place because i cant deal with this anymore. Am i wrong for deciding not to do for him. Not only is he a disrepectful, irresponsible, perverted liar, but he is also destructive. He destroys my property and doesnt care. I have no personal space what so ever. What should i do????