I am a 25 yr old stepmom. My bf and I are not married. We have been together for 5 years. He has full custody of his 7 yr old daughter and 14 yr old son. His daughter isnt that bad. She actually enjoys me being in her life, but his son hates me. Their mother has been absent in their lives since about a year before i came into the picture. They had no structure, no disipline, or even their own rooms. I have bought them school clothes, made holidays such as christmas possible for them, and even did things for their birthdays when niether one of their parents did.