I appreciate your response, and I just want to clarify that my back injury limits me as far as being able to work in my profession of 19 yrs as a home health worker. I can still do stuff just not able to do heavy lifting, standing long periods of time, but I still clean house and all those things.

I'm just not able to perform my job as I did before. Which isn't an issue until he's upset and is grasping for something to use to deflect from any issues with SS. I had expressed to him over the yrs things that were inappropriate for his son,like certain tv shows and video games that were for mature only,this was when he was 7-8 yrs old.

But SO would agree at the time but then still let it continue. We had a discussion about the fact that his son is 15 and being out past midnight with friends was a bit worrisome and that he should be calling friends parents and checking in to make sure they are doing what SS says they are doing,I think it's my SO's responsibility as a parent to keep tabs and to be up on what his kid is doing.

my SO always comes back with"he's a good kid,with good grades,he doesn't argue with me,he does what I ask etc." But what he doesn't seem to understand, is the fact that his son has no reason to have attitude because you never tell him no!

My SO is always comparing my girls to his son. My girls were a bit challenging I admit,but they were also much older when we met and their father was a nasty man who faught me every step of the way and didn't co- parent with me like my SO's ex wife does,they divorced when my SS was a yr old.

They were only married for 3 yrs,I was married to my ex for 15 yrs,so we had alot more time together and alot more baggage and hardships. I've been in my SS life since he was in diapers so it's not like I just popped in.

My SO tells me all I care about is my grandson and my daughters, I accepted my daughters living far away for the past 7 yrs,but as soon as I saw my grandson being born everything changed,and I admit, my grandson is now my joy in life.

And living here in Alaska with no family is weighing heavy,and I feel I'm losing precious time staying with my SO especially with the BS that's been going on for a long time now.

My SO and I used to be great together but I'm just not sure we can get through this and I'm not sure if I'm willing to wait 3 more yrs until his son is 18 and we can move.

I keep thinking of my SO comment about me only caring about my kids and grandson, I told him last night"well,your son has been number one above me for years and my grandson hasn't even been here for a yr. So yes! I'm putting my family number 1 now. 

Please let me know how you feel about my situation, thanks so much in advance. Thank you (IAmWoman) for your opinion *smile*