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Is it me or is my DH a total moron?

Cindy's picture

Sometimes I think my DH goes out of his way to frustrate me on purpose, he can't really be that simple, can he? Masybe it's me? I honestly just don't ever think I will get a grip on how he thinks. The stuff he says and does has absolutely no logic to me. Case in point, my SS11 has had a project to do for school, it was due today, he worked on it a while back but then left it which is how it always goes. Of course last night DH had to move him along to finish it. So they spray painted it and SS left it lying out on the lawn long after it was dry, probably expecting DH to pick it up for him. Well the sprinklers came on and it got wet. The paint was already dry before that so the water really just ran off of it. Fast forward to about 15 mins ago. I work from home so haven't been in my garage all day. I just went in there to get a can of soda and it was like a sauna. A fan was running on full speed and the garage heater was up at 70. Now, we are a family on a tight budget, and frankly whether we are on a budget or not I can't stand it when people waste energy unnecessarily. So I call my DH at work and he tells me that he left the fan on all night and put the heat on all night to dry out SS's project. I am just dumbfounded. So people, please tell me, is it me or is this the most moronic thing you have ever heard of? Running a fan and a heater all night long and then forgetting to turn it off so it runs for a further day, all so an 11 year old kid's project could be dried out when it wasn't even wet in the first place. It's not my SS's fault but I'm just blown away by my husband's actions and blatant waste of our money, heaven help us when our gas bill comes in. To top it all off, he says to me, just wait until you have kids, then you'll know why I did it. What a bunch of tripe, if SS was my BS I'd have told him to wipe the item down and bring it in to dry out overnight not set our gas meter on overload. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

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ColorMeGone2's picture

That was my opinion before I read your post, because I'm in a husband-hating mood today, but after reading it, I still think so. My DH is the exact same way! Every day when he goes to work, I follow behind him turning off lights. On his days off, I'm the one that has to remember to turn off the lights and the radio out in his shop, because he forgets. I get the same thing... "I was gonna do it, but I forgot." Dumbass turned our A/C down last night because he got hot while he was sleeping. Um, excuse me, but TAKE THE FREAKING COVERS OFF, MORON! I feel your pain. My electric bill is going to be as high as your gas bill.

♥ Georgia ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

Elizabeth's picture

I had to laugh when I read this. The other night my husband decided to "camp out" with BD 4 in the dining room on an air mattress. The next morning he told me he got cold in the night (they had one blanket), so he turned on the heater. OK, he got cold because he leaves the windows open and it gets down to the 50s at night (not exactly arctic conditions). So his solution is to leave the windows open but turn on the heater. I asked him why he didn't just get another blanket and got a blank look. AAGH!!

If it's any consolation, my husband would have done the same thing if it was SD15's project. I agree it makes no sense, but good luck getting that through to them. And I HATE the excuse that you just don't know what it's like to parent until you actually have a child. If that was my child (and I have two), I would have made him take care of the project, since it was his fault it got wet in the first place.

Cindy's picture

The most moronic thing your SO has ever done or does................ I laughed when I read what you wrote Elizabeth because I was just posting about my DH turning the heating up full blast and then leaving every window open in the house.
I doubt I'll ever get through to him, he always has that vacant look or monotone response with me that basically means he's not gonna change. I'm reading a book at the minute called "Love the one you're with" in which a woman who is happily married questions if she is really in love after seeing a guy she knew from years before. I'm only on chapter 2 and it's a novel,no biggie - but right after talking to him about the whole heating thing he says to me - you've been reading that book haven't you - it's anti-family - lmao - he's such a weirdo.

Elizabeth's picture

How long do you have? For my husband, it would have to be in book form. I swear!

Here's one of my favorites: Drive 15 miles (one way) to run on a trail. Then get back and find you locked your keys in your truck. Call me to get you and ask me to bring the keys. Then discover you locked BOTH keys in the truck. Which means I drive 15 miles to get you. Then I drive us back home (another 15 miles). Then we drive all together back to your truck (again, 15 miles), so you and I can both drive home (15 miles each). When he could have just run in our neighborhood and saved us $16 in gas (90 miles) and several hours of my time.

Cindy's picture

That made me laugh and it's comforting to hear I am not alone in my pain. I would say that all men are like this except for the fact that this was actually one of the things my first husband was very good about. I'd love to shove a hot poker up my DH's butt right now. Oh my, seems I'm more irritated than I originally thought. His other favorite thing to do is to turn up the heat and then open all the windows. He sleeps with 2 fans blowing on full blast all night long, get this, because he likes the noise, not the air flow. He has both kids sleeping the same way, ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Well, I've had a chuckle to myself if nothing else. Thanks.

Sasha's picture

One time my ex was taking out the trash. He got one of those plastic grocery bags to line the trash can then told me not to put anything wet in the bag cause there was a hole in it. Hellooooo! Who in their right mind would line a trash can with a bag that has a hole in it? Doesn't that defeat the whole purpose?

evilsm's picture

Me too! My Dh is a total idiot in my opinion today. Will have to try to post tomorrow, have to get off now. Hang in there Cindy I am with ya.

~Evil

If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders. ~Abigail Van Buren

marika's picture

because my DH has to sleep with a fan on for the noise, leaves lights on all over (but claims he has to go behind ME to turn them out) and firmly believes that everything on the stove must be cooked on high. My personal favorite is when he starts a sentence with "I don't mean to be a jerk, but..." The other night he started with that phrase and said the next time I ate all of something I should tell him. First, I didn't think I had eaten all of it and second...yes, he did mean to be a jerk. He knows that I won't eat all of anything and will in fact give the last of something to him.

Sorry...pms time.

ColorMeGone2's picture

Is when you catch them doing something wrong and then THEY GET MAD AT YOU for catching them! Um, hey, dipshit! YOU are the one who screwed up, so why are YOU mad at ME?! Aaarrrggghhh! Don't you just want to slap the shit out of them sometimes?

♥ Georgia ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

everythinghappens4areason's picture

Hubby & skids spent the wkend....hubby did some laundry (which I HATE...he doesn't know how to sort colours, etc...all thrown in together). Anyhow, I went in the laundry room and there is a pile of folded clothes. I said, "OMG, you didn't put bd's jeans in the dryer did you?"....he yelled out, "oh no, I know better then that!" (these jeans are 75% spandex & just bought last week). I said, "well how did they dry so fast then?"....dum ass only did the laundry and hour before. He said, "they dried really quickly I guess." Ya, ok!

So I walked back into the livingroom with all the kids and said, "look it hubby.....I am not stupid and you are not a good liar, so we best just stop it now and don't do the fricken laundry anymore if you don't know how to do it properly....and by the way, be prepared to buy bd a new pair of jeans because they are now 3 sizes too small!" Dum ass shut up then and his face turned red!!

Corie

Cindy's picture

So I am trying to get a lot of my outside projects done before the end of the month - a few weeks ago my DH powerwashed the frame of our back door to get loose paint off it - this was gonna be his BIG PROJECT - eye roll please - anyway 3 weeks or so later the frame is still bare wood and is the last thing to be done out the back of the house. So I said to him - do you mind if I do this tonight as I'd like to just finish everything off as we are having people over for the holiday weekend? He says - ok, if you're sure. Yeah, I'm sure that I don't want to wait until this time 2 years from now to have the doorframe painted. So I say to him "Can you bring me the stepladder from the basement and I'll start masking it off with tape?" 10 minutes later and half a doorframe taped there's no sign of him - so I figure I'll go do it myself and when I walk through the living room there he is sprawled out on the couch asleep with his socks over his face. He's a keeper for sure. Sigh! As I write this he's sprawled out asleep in bed with his 2 fans going on full speed, all the windows open and the heat up full blast - aghhhhhhhhhhhh

frustratedinMA's picture

My dh went on a work related trip 2 weeks ago. It took him a week to empty the luggage. The empty luggage is still sitting in my hallway waiting to be put where it goes. I am waiting to see how long before HE puts it away seeing as HE used it.

I know I am going to break down this week and do it.. as I am tired of looking at it.

Harleygal's picture

That sounds like the episode of Everybody loves Raymond where Ray leaves the luggage on stairs. Deborah won't pick it up and they both wait in frustation to see who will pick it up. They each go out of their way to avoid it and then it starts to stink. Cheese was left in the luggage for weeks. Ha Ha