I know that this was mentioned in a post earlier-i just wanted to get everyone's opinions because i am fixing to have a big talk with dh about this. SS is 12 and wets pretty much nightly. He did have a period of dryness from ages 4-6. So an underdeveloped bladder is not the cause of his wetting. We have been told it's "emotional". He has taken meds for it, but they dont help either. Now, that being said all 3 of my kids have been or still are bedwetters. My dd is 12 but hasnt wet the bed for years, but she did up until about 8 or 9. My dh, who is 11 wets the bed occassionally maybe once every 2 weeks. My dd, 8, wets the bed probably 75 per cent of the time-but as I said ss wets more than any of them. My kids (except my 12 y.o.) all have plastic sheets on their beds. If they wet the bed, the expectation is for them to remove the things they urinated on and put them in the laundry room. i will do their laundry and then they are responsible for putting it back on their bed. SS sleeps on a futon. I have talked to dh for two years now about getting him a plastic sheet. At one point, i provided him with my dd's old plastic sheet-but ss stuffed it under the futon, peed, and it dripped down and formed a puddle on the plastic sheet underneath it. it then sat there for a week before we discovered it due to the nauseauting smell. it was so disgusting that dh just threw the sheet away. I have talked to dh about ss wearing pullups-initially he was very against it (the other kids dont wear them) because he didnt want ss to feel bad. Now at varying times he will insist ss wear them, but ss will put one on and take it off after we go to bed or somehow manages to wet thru the thing and dh does not consistently enforce that he wear it. So usually he does not, only rarely. So then i talked to dh about having ss at least bring his urinated things to the laundry room. Dh got upset with me because i was only asking ss to do this-well, he was the only one because the others if they wet typically do it independently. If I need to remind them, i do so. SS will lie about wetting the bed and hide the blankets in various locations that to my delight I find much later by following the nasty smell. By the way I am the one who always does the laundry-dh never does it and certainly ss doesn't. Well, we just got new carpet in the boys room. At first there was a wooden shelf under the futon that was from the closet. The carpet people put it there instead of putting it back up and I just left it thinking oh, well atleast it will protect the floor. Unknown to me my son and daughter moved it out of there about a month ago because it smelled-I found it in the garage and it has multiple urine stains on it. I also found a monopoly gameboard out there-that bio son had slid under the futon while picking up and it smells strongly of urine and is completely wet and ruined. This past week he peed on futon onto the new carpet. He hid his wet blanket under my son's bed. So I am done. Now, dh has the same arguments every time-bioson occsassionally sleeps on the futon when ss is not there and although I can think of no time in any sort of recent history that he might have wet himself while there-dh still insists that it is just as much to blame as ss. He may have wet on it maybe 2 or 3 times in a 2 year period, but I cant think of any occassions in the past 6 months whatsoever. We also got new living room furniture. My bio son and bio daughter have both fell asleep once and wet themselves. I punished them by taking away privileges, yelled at them, and threatened them within an inch of their lives if they ever slept on the couch again much less wet on it. They were both conscientious about cleaning it with antibacterial spray, drying it with a fan, and promising to never do it again. Dh found out and i know that he will throw this up as well. it makes no difference that my kids are grounded and reprimanded-then learn from it and dont' do it again while ss takes no repsonsibility, i am forced to clean up after him, and no one even says a word to him about it. But its driving me seriously crazy. We are trying to sell our house and urine smelling rooms dont sell well. One of my issues is that my kids know they have had problems with bedwetting and are very embarrassed about it and try to take precautions. They limit their fluid intake, make sure they use the bathroom before going to bed, etc. In fact the times my son does wet are usually because he gets lax and forgets one of these things. My son will immediately shower if he wets self, even if it is 3am. If ss wets self at 3am, he takes off his urine underwear,throws it on the floor along withhis urine soaked blanket, grabs another one and then will wet again on that before the night is over. SS will blatantly state that he has absolutely NO control over bedwetting. That there is nothing he can do that might help reduce the chances of his bedwetting so he is not going to bother to restrict fluid or try to remember to use the bathroom before bed. I feel like his attitude is a huge part of the problem. By the way he does not shower the whole weekend her is here and that also grosses me out, but I just keep my distance and dont inahle. he doesnt even try to stop-because it's not his fault. So I want to talk to dh before ss comes over next, how do you think i should approach this?